Hi and welcome chelona. It's nice to meet you. Stick around, the people here are awesome and very helpful. Hey, will you do me a favor and fill in your profile so we can know something about you? Thanks!
Do you know what you like? Have you tried telling him?
I know what I loved when I had my first sexual relationship and I know what I don't like in this relationship. My husband now says that if I want something that I should ask for it.
Well It has to do with communicating with each other. I am not a mind reader and I don't know anybody who is. If you don't communicate wants and desires to your partner and let them grope around to try and figure it out it is not going to be good sex. It's taken a lot of discussion between DW and I to determine likes dislikes what goes into our sex routine and what goes out. There are still things that I would like that rarely happens and it took a long time to break down some walls to get DW to even try some things. After 10 years we are still talking about it and still working on it. In the mean time we have fun! -Gerry-
There is nothing normal about sex. It's all about what you each like. He's not giving you excuse, how could he know what you like and want if you don't tell him, and the same goes for him. You can't know what he likes if he doesn't tell you. If you don't want to play with yourself, then don't. Tell him you'd rather he played with you. Do you enjoy playing with him?
Others have given you some great advice. Please check out the site that Sakura gave you. It's
Well I guess I don't have an answer. DW and I give and take and we pretty much are on the same page when it comes to sex. If she told me that "X" turned her off. I would probably ask why. From that I might figure out how to get her to like it but if it still doesn't work for her I would remove it from the permissible list. Now I have overcome some apprehensions she has had because of previous bad experiences. She has told me that anal is off the table, I agree and its never come up again. I am pretty much game for anything but together we have limits and we work to find something that we both enjoy. I don't know what each of you consider objectionable but what we consider normal you might think we are way out there or not that adventurous. What I find not normal is the unwillingness to work it out. If it were me I am listening to my DW as to what makes her hot and doing everything within reason to make it happen for her. I guess I am weird in that respect. I wish you well and hope that you get it worked out. -Gerry-
Can you tell us what it is that he likes that turn you off? Maybe you telling him what you like turns him off. If that's the case, and you're not willing to do what he likes, why should he do what you like?
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Hi and welcome chelona. It's nice to meet you. Stick around, the people here are awesome and very helpful. Hey, will you do me a favor and fill in your profile so we can know something about you? Thanks!
Do you know what you like? Have you tried telling him?
Hello,
I'll have to figure out how to fill the profile.
I know what I loved when I had my first sexual relationship and I know what I don't like in this relationship. My husband now says that if I want something that I should ask for it.
-Gerry-
-Gerry-
There's really no such thing as "normal" when it comes to sex.
There is nothing wrong with asking your partner, your HUSBAND for what you want. He isnt a mind reader, even after years of marriage.
There is nothing normal about sex. It's all about what you each like. He's not giving you excuse, how could he know what you like and want if you don't tell him, and the same goes for him. You can't know what he likes if he doesn't tell you. If you don't want to play with yourself, then don't. Tell him you'd rather he played with you. Do you enjoy playing with him?
Others have given you some great advice. Please check out the site that Sakura gave you. It's
Ok, I understand that marriage isn't perfect and you do have to work at it.
I don't know what each of you consider objectionable but what we consider normal you might think we are way out there or not that adventurous.
What I find not normal is the unwillingness to work it out. If it were me I am listening to my DW as to what makes her hot and doing everything within reason to make it happen for her. I guess I am weird in that respect.
I wish you well and hope that you get it worked out.
-Gerry-
-Gerry-
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