Inhibited with potential mate?

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Inhibited with potential mate?
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Wed, 02-09-2005 - 4:26pm

I wonder if women would be less inclined to go wild in the sack with someone they viewed as a potential husband? But go wild with other men before finding Mr. Right? And would you ever admit that to Mr. Right?

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Wed, 02-09-2005 - 4:33pm

Wasn't the case for me. I need to trust the character of the person I open up THAT intimately with. IF that man wasn't marriage material, then it wouldn't and didn't happen.

And I don't think it's EVER wise to offer too many details about past partners to your spouse. Pertinent information notwithstanding.

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Registered: 10-13-2004
Wed, 02-09-2005 - 6:10pm
No way. For me, it's imperative that Mr Right is someone with whom I can be wild. If he can't cope with my wildness, then he's not Mr Right.
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Wed, 02-09-2005 - 6:58pm

I remember this discussion on another message board actually, and it had some eye-opening answers too, lol. Now I have NO opinion either way on this, but...

One poster actually mentioned what you stated because it was easier for her to (quote) "have fun" rather than fret and worry about her lover being THE one and all.

Interesting...

 

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Wed, 02-09-2005 - 8:33pm

I also have to be comfortable and trusting before I would be able to get wild so that would have to be Mr. Right.


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Thu, 02-10-2005 - 12:02am

If you know a man well enough to "bed" him, then you should know him well enough to be yourself, whatever that might be. Whether or not he's a "potential" husband has nothing to do with it. If he can't take you as you really are, then I guess he wouldn't be a potential husband, unless you intend to be someone other than you really are for the rest of your life with him. If you have to hide anything from a man, then how would you consider spending your life with him?

As someone else said, it's a bad practice to discuss your prior sex life with any man, beyond the fact that you did have a sex life before you met him. Details are not necessary, and if they push you for the details......you can be sure they'll eventually throw them up to you. A normal well adjusted man accepts that you did things before you met them, and they don't worry about what you did, or how many people you did it with.

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Sun, 02-13-2005 - 2:07am

I'd like to post an entirely different answer to this post, now that I realize WHO posted it, and the reason behind the question. At first, I thought it was a strange question, but then we get many strange questions and posts here.

After reading what you posted the day after this post, I completely understand why you asked this question. It goes right along with your obsession with what happened 15 years ago in Spain. In addition to your problem dealing with the past, now you're speculating that not only she cheated on you, she was wilder and sexier with him. Who knows, and who cares? That happened a long time ago, and I would think you would have better things to think about all these years later.

However she was with him, she's paid for it thousands of times over! Daily, according to you. That would be close to 6000 times. Don't you think she's been punished enough?