Initiate sex

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Registered: 11-26-2004
Initiate sex
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Thu, 12-29-2005 - 9:50pm
I'm curious. It was suggested that a woman initiating or being interested in sex is something from out of this world. I'd like to hear from the men and women about how their past and present relationships went. Who initiated sex more often, you or them; or was it fairly even?
Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Thu, 12-29-2005 - 10:16pm

For us it's about even, me probably initiating a bit more.


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Registered: 02-26-2001
Fri, 12-30-2005 - 12:18am
I think you know my answer. I've never had a woman make the first move or initiate sex with me. In fact, until I came to iVillage I assumed that was just the way women were. You know, they don't stand up to pee and they don't initiate sex, LOL. It's not like I thought that's the way it should be, or that I didn't want them to take the initiative, au contraire. On more than one occasion I said that I wished they would initiate occasionally, but nothing ever changed. That's life, I guess.
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Registered: 07-26-2005
Fri, 12-30-2005 - 1:16am

This was said by WHOM? Someone who lives under a rock? Women initiate all the time, and for SURE women (at least most of them) love sex.

In a good relationship, it should be as Tish describes......not something you keep score on, but something that just happens mutually. If it's always one or the other, then something is wrong.

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Registered: 08-12-2002
Fri, 12-30-2005 - 4:39am
I agree with Tish. My partner and I generally cuddle and kiss a lot anyway, so it doesn't take much to get both of us to get worked up. But I would say we're about even in terms of initiation. My partner said as long as I can get him hard, it's all go lol.

 


 


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Registered: 12-20-2004
Fri, 12-30-2005 - 9:27am
The village polls suggest that the women who visit here are into sex more than the average woman. Sure a woman who has a high libido will iniate sex often. If I polled 20 of my male friends , 15 would say their wives dont initiate sex, and have less desire than they do. For what ever reason this seems to be true , in most cases. I say for what ever reason because it make sense that if a woman is harboring resentment because her man is a jerk, she wont want sex as often. But none the less she isnt initating. Maybe there are just that many jerks out there..lol
As for me , starting with my honeymoon, my first wife could have cared less to have sex. My new wife loves and initiates sex.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-26-2004
Fri, 12-30-2005 - 12:17pm

Ok, So, Hump....if you want, we can only take the men's responses into account. I should have made this into a poll, but anyway, so far, Mancreature's both wives were initiators and enjoyed sex, Rice's and your first wife, didn't, but your second wife does. That's three to two. Any other men care to comment?

Edited to add: My original post was about ALL of your past relationships as well as present. Not just those you married. Rice has stated that he's been with five women altogether and none of them initiated, but I think that he's said that some of them enjoyed sex, so I'm not sure where they'll fall? tee hee




Edited 12/30/2005 12:21 pm ET by rain_dancer_iam
Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )
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Registered: 08-12-2002
Fri, 12-30-2005 - 2:48pm

Ok, past relationships as well. Well, not all sexual partners were from relationships, so I will just talk in terms of partners.

Partner no. 1. initiated more, I have said previously that the sex sucked, he wouldn't do anything about it and thought it was easier to blame me. Of course he wasn't going to get much.

Partner no. 2. I initiated the first time (spent weeks chasing him lol), and him the second time.

Partner no. 3. we both initiated about the same amount.

Partner no. 4. a weekend of sex with a friend of mine, and I would say he initiated more. Sadly it was like having sex with Partner no. 1. again.

Partner no. 5. My current relationship. We both initiate as often as each other.

 


 


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 12-30-2005 - 3:28pm
Usually, fairly even, in the present, as well as the past. I'm just too impatient a person to always wait on the guy to make the first move!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 12-30-2005 - 3:45pm
As Rain mentioned before, alot of those same seemingly inactive and uninterested women will be masturbating regularly in private. It could be that they aren't getting anything out of sex with their partner so it becomes just another chore to do instead of the pleasure it should be.
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Registered: 02-13-2005
Fri, 12-30-2005 - 3:58pm

It's pretty much equal I would say.

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