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Intercourse for the first time
| Sat, 11-10-2007 - 4:28pm |
Hi. I'm a 18 year old boy, and I am going to have intercourse for the first time next weekend. I have fingered a girl once before, but only with my hand down her pants.....(she had an orgasm). But I wonder if you have some

Okay, moving past that, the most important thing to know is that intercourse isn't the be all and end all for women the same way it is for guys — foreplay is at least as important as intercourse, and probably more so, for making sure that she has an enjoyable experience. Even when you reach the point that you're inside her, you shouldn't ignore her clit. The other important thing to know is that it can take women a lot longer to heat up and get ready than it takes a guy, so be prepared to be patient, take your time, and don't be in a hurry to get to the 'main event'.
You might want to spend a little time at this site: the-clitoris.com learning a little about how sexual pleasure works for women. It will definitely be knowledge that is well learned.
Best of luck to you and your partner, and again — be safe, relax, and have a good time.
Welcome to the board, gogo89. My response to your question would pretty much be a carbon copy of what Steve has already written. I'm not sure why you've told this girl that you aren't a virgin, but it might be wise to fix that before you have sex with her. A lot of people are nervous the first time they have a sex with a new partner, so it isn't so much a matter of her noticing as it is the effects it will have on your relationship if and when she finds out.
I have a son who is a storyteller, and I have witnessed first hand how difficult it is when one of this lies comes back to bite him in the butt. I know it can be embarrassing to come clean, but it really is a good idea.
Another thing that I will add is that it's pretty common for young guys to orgasm quickly, especially when caught up in the excitement of a brand new experience. If that happens, it doesn't mean it's the end of the event. You can continue to stimulate her and help her reach orgasm, and may find that you are able to last a little longer if you make it to round two in the same evening.
Also repeating what Steve said, make sure you play safe, try to relax and enjoy yourself. If you've never worn a condom before, you might want to have a couple of extras to experiment with putting one on properly. That can help you to keep from fumbling when you're with her, and to make sure you know how to use the condom correctly. If you do go for round 2 that night, remember, a new condom is required.
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Hi. Thank you so much! First of all I want to explain the virgin thing. I have never
Thanks for clarifying that, gogo. I think it's great that you waited until you felt you were with the right person.
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