Intimacy W/O Sex

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Registered: 09-25-2004
Intimacy W/O Sex
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Fri, 07-15-2005 - 11:17am
I'm about two weeks off from my due date..Next week if my blood pressure stays elevated and doesn't come down. So far, its been high for over a week. So, I should be having my baby boy either by induction or C-Section. I told DH that as much as I love and desire him, my drive has just gone down the drain. Every time I hit major stress (and I've been under massive stress since my MIL reared her ugly head again and told me that DSS was going to take the baby b/c I didn't take childbirth classes), my drive takes a dive. I can't concentrate on sex, let alone think about it. On top of that, there's no foreplay. I also told him that I want the intimacy w/o sex. After the baby, it'll be six weeks before we can have sex again. So, how do we achieve intimacy w/o sex before the baby comes so that we aren't trying to figure it out while caring for the baby?
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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: jenniekg
Fri, 07-15-2005 - 11:32am

Intimacy and sex are not one in the same.


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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: jenniekg
Fri, 07-15-2005 - 11:46am

Jennie, the last thing you need to be worrying about right now...2 weeks away from your due date.....is sex. I'm sure that will probably sound harsh and heartless to the male posters on the board, but it's true. Most women don't feel the least bit sexual with a 6-8lb. weight sitting on their pelvis! It becomes very physically uncomfortable just to SLEEP, at this point.

And you're doing the "heavy lifting" of producing this child, so let your DH handle his own sexual needs at this time. He'll survive, for the next 2 wks. and the next 6 after that, I promise.

And going through childbirth together will be one of the most intimate moments you'll share with him. Stop worrying and concentrate on yourself right now. The priority for you both, should be delivering this child safely.

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Registered: 11-26-2004
In reply to: jenniekg
Fri, 07-15-2005 - 12:22pm
I agree with the others. Intimacy isn't only about the physical. There will be times in your marriage when sex will take a back-seat and you will see just how intimate the two of you really are. Having a child together(the birth and the experience of being new parents) will bring you closer together. Sharing your lives builds intimacy. John Lennon said it best "Life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans." ;-)
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