introducing toys to a new man
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introducing toys to a new man
| Tue, 09-18-2007 - 12:51am |
Hello all,
I am new to the boards. I have a question about toys. How would you introduce one to a new man? At one time I could have orgasms with my hands, but the vibs get me there much quicker! Any tips on using this on a new man?

Welcome to the board Chelle.
Are you interested in introducing a toy to be used on him? If so, how do you intend to use it?
If it's a vibe for you ...
Do you manually stimulate yourself when you and your guy are together? Since most guys really enjoy it when a woman takes matters into her own hands, I would begin by stimulating my clitoris during IC. IF you get a positive reaction from that, then I would introduce the vibe with a comment letting him know you have something new for him to enjoy.
In general ...
A lot of guys feel intimidated by toys. If you're not comfortable enough to just bring the toy into the bedroom, then perhaps have a conversation with him outside of the bedroom, asking him if he's ever played with toys. During that conversation, you can find out how he feels about toys being used on either of you during partnered sex.
From a male -
I find the idea of a woman using toys very hot and have given my wife several.
Why?
Because it shows me she is actually interested in sex when she is willing to do something like that. An active partner is an exciting partner.
So anyway, yes, he could be intimidated, but it could lead to a great night very quickly.