Isn't Anybody On My Side???
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Isn't Anybody On My Side???
| Wed, 08-11-2004 - 11:12am |
I was just wondering why everybody is so understanding when it comes to guys whatching porn??? i cant for the life of me see how all the women know that their men are looking at that crap...and they are OK with it! This is somehting that makes me very angry! i can understand if they were to watch it together and get off, i guess thats no so bad. but when a man or woman takes interest in it alone, then whats the most humiliating thing one can do to another!!! its almost like we ladies just have to accept the need for more than one woman!!!
Does anyone see where im coming from???
Does anyone see where im coming from???
no one seems to feel the same way i do, but i know im not wrong, and if theres anyone out there who agrees with me please let me know!
thanks, and sorry for the hostility

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my guy doesnt watch any of that crap, and he knows how i feel about it, hee feels the same way!
i am not insecure and i have nothing worry about when it comes to our relationship, i was curious about how others felt about this subject! and i appreciate what you have written!
thank you
leona
ps, you mentioned healthy porn. is there such a thing as healthy porn?
I wasn't meaning it in a condescending way. My point was, that people who go to a sex board are more likely to be open to all sorts of forms of sexuality, including porn usage. It can make you seem like you are alone, but the poster's here don't represent the masses.
Leticia
Leticia
I don't have an interest in porn either, but I've seen it by myself and with my wife occassionally. Sometimes it is fun. However, it is just that...fun. It's a way to do something a little different. I have no need to spend time looking at it. I do masturbate fairly often, but use my mind to create the images that I want to increase my arousal. Those images happen to be of my wife and things that we have done or I would like to do. However, I am not judgmental of those that look at pictures or images to get aroused. To me, it's just another way of activating the mind to bring up arousing images. After all, our thoughts are what arouses us...whether we are imagining something, looking at Penthouse, watching a porn film or reading erotica. Even when we are stroked by our partner, it's still our thoughts that do most of the work. The mind and spirit are master of the body, especially when it comes to sexual function. So in a round about way, I would say that "healthy" porn use, would be using pornography as a tool for arousal, but not becoming dependent upon it (like having a drink with dinner, but not forgoing dinner for drinking). In other words, if the only way that you can become aroused is by watching a porn film, or you would rather masturbate while watching porn than make love to your SO, then I would say that you are using it in an unhealthy manner.
Thanks for the great topic Leona.
Love to both of you.
Scott.
Leona-
1) Women watch porn, too.
2) There's a difference between looking and touching.
3) Private masturbation is just that. It has nothing to do with one's partner. It has everything to do with pleasing yourself.
4) Masturbation and porn have nothing to do with "needing more than one woman".
*People* watch porn, use vibrators, read romance novels, masturbate, and fantasize because its perfectly natural. They do it because it feels good to ted to your own needs 100% without having to worry about pleasing a partner, too. And who knows your own wants and needs better than you? Many therapists will even suggest that couples who each masturbate privately may prove more responsive when they're together because they're in better touch with their own sexuality. Also, if you've already privately fantasized about swinging from the rafters with Jennifer Anniston, then you're more likely to be 100% focused on your wife
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i was interested in this only because i have always heard women support this issue, like in a poll i read the other day saying that we ladies just have to understand that men will be men, and they are GOING to watch that stuff and that is that. .. i cant quote it perfectly but it was something like that. i am sort of stubborn when i comes to someone telling me that i dont have a choice, so i suppose thats why it interested me so much. anyway, since i strongly disagreed with this, i wanted to know what other people thought. and for the most part everyone felt it was normal to watch porn and so forth... as long as its not in our relationship then thats cool.i am not knocking it at all and i didnt want to offend anybody and i apologize if this conversation did:)
however any other replies are more than welcome!!!
thanks to all!!
P S.
so would healthy porn be like slow passionate sex? or does the style matter? still confused on the whole HEALTHY thing!
but i am willing to learn.
and also, nothing against touching yourself, hey we have all done it! My only concern, yet again, was getting aroused by looking at another woman while you have one at home with you.
thanks again
L
<only concern, yet again, was getting aroused by looking at another woman while you have one at home with you.>>
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