Isnt sex just GREAT!?! lol & g-spot ?

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Registered: 11-13-2006
Isnt sex just GREAT!?! lol & g-spot ?
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Fri, 08-17-2007 - 11:36am

Geez, just had THE best sex session last nite. I see this guy casually, about a couple times a week. Sort of a FWB, but a LITTLE more than that i guess.


He LOVES to give me oral. & use his fingers inside me. I have a very active g-spot & definatly ejaculate, a LOT. Soaking the bed.

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Registered: 11-30-2006
Sun, 08-19-2007 - 11:01pm

I see. We are going to pick at semantics. Just to ease your concerns I'll repeat myself: most of the women who I have known over 25 years as adults have stated that most of the men that they have been with either didn't put in any effort into learning how to stimulate them orally or they didn't want to invest the time needed to bring them to orgasm or they thought they knew what they were doing and dont, or any other typical response that a female could give.

Now that everyone is done being sarcastic and nitpicky because I have a world of different experiences with different people and their experiences...I would like to sit back and enjoy this board. Thank you.

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Registered: 08-19-2007
Mon, 08-20-2007 - 3:27pm

I'm surprised that Snafu (and so many other women) have come to the general conclusion that men do not know how to give oral sex...at least, not very well. This is going to sound odd, but everything I learned about giving oral sex I learned from pornographic videos. If there is an upside to porn, it's probably that. So I'd thinkt that many other men had learned that way, as well.

I have only heard compliments on my oral techniques, so at least I'm doing one thing right. It really takes creativity and a knowledge of female anatomy, and that's it. So I'm miffed that so many men are that lousy.

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Mon, 08-20-2007 - 3:29pm

I wasn't trying to be sarcastic or nitpicky I was only replying to what you said and I quote...."most men either dont want to or have the stamina to do that."

I didn't realize by that statement you meant... "most of the women who I have known over 25 years as adults have stated that most of the men that they have been with either didn't put in any effort into learning how to stimulate them orally or they didn't want to invest the time needed to bring them to orgasm or they thought they knew what they were doing and dont, or any other typical response that a female could give."

I hope you can enjoy the board!

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Mon, 08-20-2007 - 3:42pm

"So I'm miffed that so many men are that lousy."

I think that's what a lot of people are arguing here. I know in my personal experience, I have had one lover that wasn't well educated in satisfying a woman orally. That was with my first BF, and I was too shy to teach him how to do it properly. Since that time, I've never had a relationship with a man that wasn't willing to put the effort into oral sex. Of the 4 other long term relationships I've had, all have been very well skilled at performing oral sex. As a matter of fact, that was the preferred activity of one of them!

I know I've also had my share of casual sexual relationships too -- and I can't remember bad oral experiences during those times either.



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Mon, 08-20-2007 - 3:50pm

You Said,"The trouble with oral sex and clitoral orgasms is that your BF would have to bear down on your clitoris and move real fast side to side/up and down in order for you to orgasm and most men either dont want to or have the stamina to do that."

Where did you ever get the idea a man would not or could not do that for his woman?????...I love doing that, as does millions of men.. You must be seeing the wrong guys.

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Mon, 08-20-2007 - 5:08pm
I will repeat myself *again*: most of the women who I have known over 25 years as adults have stated that most of the men that they have been with either didn't put in any effort into learning how to stimulate them orally or they didn't want to invest the time needed to bring them to orgasm or they thought they knew what they were doing and dont, or any other typical response that a female could give.
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Registered: 12-20-2004
Mon, 08-20-2007 - 5:25pm
Well that makes sense, but that doesnt account for all the men who have done their homework and take pride in their skills. We hear a lot on these boards that there are men who are very selfish,lack oral skills, or who just roll over after a non inspiring romp, with little or no foreplay...There is an old saying, it goes like this..."there are two types of people in this world, those who "get it" and those who do not". I guess that goes for the sexual arena also...lol
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Mon, 08-20-2007 - 6:10pm

Just curious, did those women speak up and let the guy know that what he was doing wasn't working and tell him what she wanted/needed?

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Mon, 08-20-2007 - 6:53pm
Perhaps the women with partners who were good at oral sex simply kept quiet, as they didn't want the rest of you honing in on their men.

ETA: Sorry Misty, I forgot that I was hear reading this with my hat on.

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Edited 8/20/2007 6:54 pm ET by cl-bostonsteve



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Mon, 08-20-2007 - 9:13pm
You would probably have gotten less of a reaction if you had said "some men" instead of "most men". Speaking in stereotypes and painting with a broad brush is almost certain to get a rise out of people.

Your statement is similar to if I had claimed that most women are frigid and uninterested in sex, because most of the men I have spoken with about this complain that their partners don't ever want to do it.

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