Is it an age thing?

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Registered: 09-07-2004
Is it an age thing?
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Thu, 02-02-2006 - 7:01am
He is 61; I am 47. We've been together almost two years, and haven't had sex in weeks. Just for my own insecurity, is it me? Am I too comfortable and boring after all that time, or do older men just don't get "hot" that often?

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Registered: 12-20-2004
Fri, 02-03-2006 - 4:34pm
With many older men, kissing and cuddling is not enough to give them an erection.. He just may need DIRECT stimulation on his penis to get an erection.. Lend him a hand
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 02-03-2006 - 5:53pm
And I would like to clarify that hump's wise hand's on suggestion also applies to many older WOMEN, as well!
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Registered: 04-10-2005
Sun, 02-05-2006 - 4:01pm

I'm 46 and my husband is 61. Stress can lower anyone's libido and certainly will lower my husband's. However that isn't the biggest issue we have faced. Did your man have any erection difficulties lately? I don't mean erectile dysfunction where it wouldn't rise but has he experienced any times when he couldn't sustain an erection? Mine had some difficulties after being put on medicine for his blood pressure where he would get an erection but it wouldn't last. Rather than go through that happening again he gave up on sex for awhile. That was our longest time without sex but we eventually worked through it and his erection difficulties have subsided.

Any change in his typical erectile response could cause him to avoid sex. Men seem to be very sensitive to erection issues. When mine was having his problem me initiating sex would irritate him because he was afraid of failure. What worked for us was for me to get him to satisfy me without an erection. He used his hands. Once he finally caught on that I could be satisfied without his erection, he relaxed and the erectile difficulties ended.

Good luck!
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