It BURNS....

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Registered: 09-09-2004
It BURNS....
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Mon, 05-23-2005 - 2:14am

OW! Ow! ow!....

My boyfriend and I have just recently started having sex... it happened a couple weeks ago for the first time ( we did it twice) and actually, he just left a little while ago ( for a total of 3 times,lol, I Know, TMI)

Neither of us are virgins, but I haven't done it alot in the past, one other guy, we did it.. 15x over a period of 8 months. I am being detailed about time here because I am wondering about whether this issue has something to do with my inexperience...

Anyway, with both guys no condoms( I"m on the pill)and when they ejaculate, in me, it's fine, but after a ocuple minutes, it totally burns. It felt a little irritaited and I had to go pee so I wnet and once I started going my skin just BURNED and I washed off his "stuff" because it was burning too bad.

As I was in the bathroom it reminded me I had this same problem when I was with the other guy.

What on earth could it be? Is the friction of having sex irriating my skin and then getting it wet ( from the semen) making it burn? Like when you wash a skinned knee? Or could I possibly be allergic to semen?

With the first guy, the first few times we did it we made and honest effort at using condoms, and I dont relaly remmeber having this burning problem. But then again. I believe I was drunk those times...

Ideas?

Emily

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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: auntyem4
Mon, 05-23-2005 - 8:02am

There should not be burning during sex whether you're very active or not.


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Registered: 09-09-2004
In reply to: auntyem4
Mon, 05-23-2005 - 11:34pm

No, it's not DURING, it's AFTER. During is fine, but after, within 5 minutes or so, when the semen comes into contact with the area just outside or immediatly around.. you know.. then that burns. this time, and in the past I have wiped it off with a wet towel. Then it's fine.

As far as lubrication goes- generally speaking, I soak the sheet without any extra assistance.. in the past, with guy #1, we did sporadiclaly use lube- it never seemed to affect the after burning.

I don't get it.

The bad thing about my doctor is that the one I have was through my college and i just graduated last friday ( yay) but now I am no lomnger leigible for the student health plan, and I believe I am already off my dad's insurance. Any ideas where I can look up semen allergies?

could it be my skin is still getting irriatited, even though it's wet? could it be real sensitive, and getting raw and just any fluid is whats irriating it?

emily

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: auntyem4
Tue, 05-24-2005 - 12:33am

Yes, you can still get irritated even though you're very lubricated, particularly with aggressive thrusting and long sessions. Rubbing against pubic hair can cause irritation and even though your vagina may be well lubricated, your vulva may not be.

And it just makes sense that anything containing salt, his semen, would irritate inflammed tissues.

I would consider applying your own natural lube to the outer tissues, or use some KY or other artificial lube or try changing the angle of penetration so that you aren't rubbing the same area the whole time. Or another suggestion...shorten the duration of thrusting until the area heals.

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Registered: 09-09-2004
In reply to: auntyem4
Tue, 05-24-2005 - 1:52am

LOL GOSH DARN IT!
I will se your ideas about getting the outside lubed with my own stuff- but your theorie sof how it got that way don't fly- lol and for funny reasons...

My DBF hadn't had sex in a few years when we finally did it.. so ahem, this isn't exactly a time consuming activity. No more than 5 minutes.. if that...LOL (blushing)

As far as thursting goes... to make it last more than 30 seconds, we are barely moving at all- and personally, I havent had a ton of sex and there have been these loooong periods inbetween a single sex act during which i tighten up again. it s a bit tight in there so we are going slow because its still a little uncomfortable. I never had enough sex in any period of time to break thru that whole tight virgin thing.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: auntyem4
Tue, 05-24-2005 - 11:00am
I have the same problem, and I also think that it is because the semen irritates the skin that it friction sensitive. As a result, I always make him pull out or use a condom. However, I worry about how this will affect me when I am trying to conceive.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: auntyem4
Tue, 05-24-2005 - 11:11am

Okay, then you answered your own question. I remember feeling a little sore and irritated after sex, for a while, when I first began having sex. Takes some time before your genitals become used to all the attention! LOL! Particularly if you have sensitive skin!

Take a warm bath after each session to soothe those tissues and you should eventually get used to it.

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Registered: 06-01-2005
In reply to: auntyem4
Wed, 06-01-2005 - 10:24pm
I doubt you are allergic to semen. the same thing happened to me the two times I let a guy ejaculate in me...my advice, don't let it happen again!!!! The pill is not 100% effective, and 2. you don't know what your boyfriend has...i.e. herpes, HPV, gonorrhea, chlamydia, HIV!!! Trust me, I am going through an STD scare right now because the condom broke. Please use a condom, and to avoid breaking it, use a water based lubricant...
as for the burning, it's probably what you described..irritation in your vagina and the semen's contents probably exarcerbate the burning.
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Registered: 09-09-2004
In reply to: auntyem4
Thu, 06-02-2005 - 4:10am

Diseases do not appear to be any sort of issue for myself and my boyfriend... he's been with one other woman, and they lost it to each other. They gave each other their first kisses, and he hasn't fooled around with anyone, ever, other than myself---his current gf (that would be ME), and his ex. That's it. And we've both been tested, recently and in the past, just to be paranoid.

Sorry for you problems tho!!!! I can't imagine the stress you feel not knowing.

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Registered: 11-03-2004
In reply to: auntyem4
Thu, 06-02-2005 - 10:38am
Try it with a condom and see if that helps. I have a sore spot (no more details) and I say ky and a slow slow start. Good luck
Rache
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Registered: 12-15-2004
In reply to: auntyem4
Thu, 06-02-2005 - 5:15pm
Sounds like a lot of friction and you're irritated and may just not realize it during sex. Semen is obviously salty so it would burn any skin irritation. It burning when you urinated is also a big sign to me this is irritation. Try some ky or wet lube you can buy at the drug store....you may notice a difference right away. If not, then I would go to the doctor and see whats up.