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It doesnt feel good for her
| Thu, 04-12-2007 - 10:30pm |
My girlfriend and I have had sex a couple times now. I was her first but weve done it over 9 times and it still doesnt feel good for her. She says it doesnt hurt anymore but shes not getting any pleasure out of it. Am i doing something wrong? When i lick her clitoris she says it feels good, but when i go inside her, she says it is like a very weak version of licking her clitoris. What can i do to make it feel good for her? Please help. Im desperate

That's because women don't have any nerve endings inside their vagina, there's not much feeling in there.....only "friction". A woman's main sexual organ is her clitoris, not her vagina, and that's why she doesn't feel much. Most women have orgasms (and she being almost a virgin, don't expect that right away, either) from clitoral stimulation, either from oral sex, or from stimulation during intercourse, either you, her or your position can do that. Woman on top is good for clitoral stimulation.
Both of you should check out www.the-clitoris.com so that you can both understand a woman's body, how it works, and her sexual responses.
Welcome to the board lovingguy. Both being virgins, it will take a while to get a feel for everything. What exactly are you looking for her to feel? Are you asking her what she is feeling, expecting her to have an orgasm, or is she commenting that she isn't feeling what she expected to feel?
The reason why I ask is because very much of the enjoyment of sex for a female is in her head. From relaxing enough to enjoy the event to learning how to have an orgasm, her head has to be in the right place. If she is expecting something, or feels pressured to feel something, then it can really work against both of you.
Do you know if she is able to orgasm during masturbation? She may be shy, but if you can get her to open up and talk about things that might have brought her pleasure during masturbation, then you may learn ways that you can please her too. As far as intercourse, some women never experience orgasm through intercourse. I suspect that one of the problems in your situation is that she is not relaxing, perhaps being too shy to let herself go and enjoy all of the feelings. How does she react to foreplay? Does she seem to really be into it, or does she seem a bit reserved?
The website that Sakura gave you is an excellent resource. Also, iVillage has many articles for women. I'm including a link to one of them that may be helpful to both of you as well.
Know Thyself: The Female Form 101
http://love.ivillage.com/lnssex/sexsolo/0,,traceycox_b6vtmjv3,00.html
I really think that the more the two of you experiment and learn what pleases the other, the better sex will be for both of you. Feel free to come back and ask any other questions you may have, or join in the conversations anytime.