Is it hopeless or can I fix it ?

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Registered: 09-02-2008
Is it hopeless or can I fix it ?
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Wed, 09-03-2008 - 3:48pm

My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and we've been through a lot of challenges together! He is always very loving and supportive and has been helping me to heal from my after math of being sexually abused as a child, and being in unhealthy relationships. I have been cheated on , betrayed , lied to , emotionally , mentally , verbally and physically abused in the past . I have been through counseling for this and it helped a lot , but I am still having problems with having sex and being affectionate with my boyfriend .

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Thu, 09-04-2008 - 1:11am
Thank you so much even though you gave no advice it still helps A LOT to hear that others have been in similar if not the same situation that I'm going through . It gives me hope and more desire to keep working to make myself more and more healthy . I can't that you enough for sharing your story and feelings it really means a lot !!! So thank you , I have been slowly walking this path of healing for 2 years now and I can feel myself getting more and more healthy everyday , I
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Thu, 09-04-2008 - 1:47am

Hello again cl-misty_mae,


I just wanted to answer some of your questions::


I have never really been able to fantasize about anything I don't know why. My BF and I are very honest with each other in all aspects in our relationship , we both are starting to talk more to each other about our sex life , what we like and don't like , how somethings are making us feel , and the different challenges that we are facing , it really helps . In the past I was never able to be open like this or talk about anything sex related , So I am very proud that I now am comfortable with doing so , It has helped my BF and I in many aspects.Another thing I am able to do and enjoy now that I was unable to do and enjoy in the past is , giving and receiving oral stimulation . You are right , after I got more comfortable with it , I started to get more and more confidence , and now I love it ,( an so does my BF LOL) It is at the moment the only thing that I can make the first move on . It's the little things like this that help me to keep healing and building confidence and pride in myself :)


A just a bit of past info: I was sexually

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Thu, 09-04-2008 - 7:35am

I never thought I would like romance stories either. But boy, some of them are good. Me, personally, I like Joan Johnston, Elizabeth Lowell, Diana Palmer, historical romances. If you have a used book store in your area, check them out. Don't pay full price for books.


Also try to bring some of the romance back, that's important. Don't get into a rut. You're a good woman and have gotten some great advice here. Keep talking. You'll get to where you want/need to be in time. You can do it!

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Thu, 09-04-2008 - 10:57am
Thank you so much , I always buy my books second hand also ! I will definitely look into those books ! Thanks again for the support:)

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