It just does NOT stay hard!

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-19-2004
It just does NOT stay hard!
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Mon, 03-27-2006 - 1:33am
I have a problem with my boyfriend. We have hot and steamy sex but he goes soft in the middle of everything. A few minutes later, it becomes hard again, but it's getting frustrating for both of us. He is saying that I am the fist person he experiences this with.
My ex had that problem too. I am guessing it's something that has to do with me. What could it be and how can I fix it? Thank you
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-26-2005
Mon, 03-27-2006 - 7:01am

It's NOT you....you don't control his erection. But, if it happened with your ex, maybe you're too aggressive or demanding, and you make them nervous.

As long as he's able to get the erection back, it shouldn't be that frustrating. You work with it. All guys get nervous occasionally, and it's nothing to be upset about. Maybe it's your REACTION to it that causes the problems. It's normal for it to happen to a guy once in a while, but if you react badly to it, then you're putting them in a position of feeling inadequate, and that just makes the problem worse. Men and their erections are like women and their orgasms. The minute you start worrying about it, it's gone.