Is it me...or him
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Is it me...or him
| Mon, 09-12-2005 - 12:33am |
I have been dating a guy for about five months.At first our sex life was great...on the same level. The last two months when i innitiate sex he's "tired" "not in the mood" or "dont feel like it" When he initiates i dont have a problem(I have a high sex drive)He says its not me and otherwise he's a very caring and affectionate man. Im confused as to why he's never interested when i am anymore!

Well, did you tell him that you're beginning to feel neglected when he says he's too tired all the time? One partner should NEVER have total veto power when it comes to sex.
But it's not fair to assume that either of you will always want the same amount of sex as you do in the "honeymoon period" of your relationship though. Hormones dictate much of that in the beginning.
But it sounds like his real libido is beginning to emerge, and now you will need to negotiate for what you need when it comes to frequency. Sorry, but that's the case within any relationship since people rarely have the same drive.
5 months together isn't very long and maybe something else IS bothering him but that's where good communication and a willingness to compromise on BOTH your parts has to come into play. Good luck!
if he is telling you to "find someone else who can" there is something up and you need to address it quickly. Sounds to me like the relationship isnt very important to him. No Man who is truly interested in keeping a relationship together tells their partner to find sex elsewhere.
My Husband has a low libido compared to mine... but he has never told me to find satisfaction elsewhere.
Edited 9/12/2005 2:24 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001