Is it normal to not be into sex?

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Registered: 06-14-2007
Is it normal to not be into sex?
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Tue, 06-19-2007 - 6:35pm
I've never really been into sex. I mean other women talk about it like it's the best thing in the world and if my husband asked me I'd say no. I mean it hurts and I don't have orgasms from sex. I just see it as something to do when you want a baby. Don't get me wrong it feels really good when I get oral pleasure but sex without that is bland. My husband is good in bed but I've always been this way. Is there any way I can get a new outlook on this because after a while I see this as becoming a potential problem.

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Registered: 12-12-2006
Thu, 06-21-2007 - 3:55pm

That's another thought I had.....if you concentrate more on pleasing him, you'll stop thinking about yourself, and sometimes, just the ACT of giving him pleasure will help arouse you. I don't know how you feel about giving him oral sex, but if you do, you know he loves it.....while you're doing it, think of how excited HE is.....and hopefully, he can do it to you at the same time.....it's ALL in the mind.....and I think you have the idea that you have to concentrate on what's happening, NOT the pain that you're expecting to have.......because if you can stop thinking about it, you probably won't have it.

Explain it to him, hopefully he'll understand and go along with it.....I bet it will only take one or two sessions like that, and you'll start WANTING to try it.

Another thing that can be VERY exciting and arousing is Tantric Sex.....which is way of building up desire for a long time without actually having sex.....until you can't STAND it anymore. Look it up on the internet.....it's very sensual for both partners. It may sound strange, but it works. It involves things like staring into each other's eyes, hugging, touching and caresssing, massages.....check it out.




Edited 6/21/2007 3:56 pm ET by sakura2006
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Registered: 06-14-2007
Thu, 06-21-2007 - 4:38pm
You know I never heard of that again til now, I had a guy friend who had a book on "Tantric Sex", just never knew what it was myself! I will look into that. It sounds fun!!! And yes I do please my man by oral!!!!

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