is it okay to tell him it's too small?

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Registered: 05-14-2007
is it okay to tell him it's too small?
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Mon, 05-14-2007 - 1:16pm

my bff has met this wonderful guy. really great. problem: it's tiny.
now, i konw some people say, oh it does not matter...yada yada...but to me it does and when seeking advice from me, i told her to stop faking and just walk away. but that's just what --i-- would do. what about you ladies?

she does not want to see him anymore. should she make up a false reason why, or tell him the truth. but if she does, it know it will crush his ego. i didn't want to give her the "wrong" advice, having never been in the situation..thank goodness as i don't know how i would handle anything like that...

i keep replaying the scene in sex in the city when samantha told james it was too little...and i know that's not the way to do it!

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Registered: 02-09-2007
Mon, 05-14-2007 - 2:05pm

Short answer:

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Registered: 04-20-2007
Mon, 05-14-2007 - 2:36pm
I agree with Tangency. It's not going to make a difference in the long run! Better for her to leave him and just say it's over than for her to diminish his ego!
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Registered: 05-14-2007
Mon, 05-14-2007 - 2:44pm

30.

i agree, and don't believe she should tell him the TRUTH. he is going to want to know why so she has to say something. i told her to just say im not getting what i need from this relationship, or something along those lines.

she is a very honest person and didn't want to lie but i told her to make an exception.

i don't beleive that every woman can sacrafice her happiness in bed -- for some, yes, size/performance (fill in the blank) does matter -- so i don't think her decision is selfish, she is just doing what makes her happy. i just told her not to hurt him in doing so -- telling him that it's little.

and i agree that when he meets the right person, she won't care.

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Registered: 08-01-2006
Mon, 05-14-2007 - 3:14pm
I have to agree with tangency. She doesn't need to tell him why. But I do need to ask how old you and she are? I don't think she loves him so she can just tell him that.



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Registered: 03-08-2004
Mon, 05-14-2007 - 3:33pm

No, she should not tell him his penis is small (I'm sure he knows what size penis

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Mon, 05-14-2007 - 4:54pm

Welcome to the board sobisou.

I think the other members have summed up my feelings rather well. It's not going to serve any purpose for her to tell him her thoughts about his size. It would just be a mean spirited thing to do.



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Registered: 01-11-2004
Mon, 05-14-2007 - 9:56pm

Hi Ladies:

Each guy knows his measurements. She should just say the relationship isn't working out.....
Mac

 

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Registered: 10-28-2006
Tue, 05-15-2007 - 2:15am

It's not lying unless he asks if it's his size and she says no.
I don't think he'll be asking that unless she gives him reason to.
She should never tell him that. Men are senstive about there size just
like we are about are looks and features. Would she want to be told
the relationship is ending because she's to fat or her boobs aren't perfect.
No! So why should she do that to him!

Kareese