Is it really that tight?

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Registered: 12-28-2007
Is it really that tight?
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Fri, 11-07-2008 - 12:41am
So, I've been told by several of my partners that I have a really tight vagina. One guy I was seeing had a problem cum-ing too fast when we had sex, he claimed it was because I was so tight. I don't do anything to make my vagina tighter. I only work out occasionally and sometimes do Pilates moves that seem like that might be working my inner thighs and that special area. Can men really tell the difference from woman to woman when it comes to "tightness"? Is it like throwing a hot dog down a wide hallway with some women... Are some woman just born with tighter or with smaller vaginas? I would appreciate any feedback, especially from a male prospective. :-)

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Registered: 12-12-2006
Fri, 11-07-2008 - 1:43am

Everyone is different, of course.

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Fri, 11-07-2008 - 7:17am

I think the differences that can be felt are minor differences in actual space. Any time that you're dealing with fitting 2 things together, the difference that makes something too small or too big can be very slight.

Some women are better toned than others as well, but as Sakura said, the arousal level can have a lot to do with sizing too. However, if you ever notice that you're having difficulty opening up enough or being too dry, you should talk with your gyn. There are some medical conditions that can be a factor as well.

Otherwise, enjoy ;-)





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Registered: 12-12-2006
Fri, 11-07-2008 - 9:00am

I had another thought about this.......the guy that said he finished so fast because you were too tight.....that was probably just his "excuse" for not being able to last longer!

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Registered: 11-07-2008
Fri, 11-07-2008 - 11:44am

I have been told that too by the couple of guys I have been with. One told me not to use the muscles during sex because it is already tight down there.

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Registered: 12-21-2006
Fri, 11-07-2008 - 11:45am
As it is with male genitals, some women are definitely tighter than others. This in spite of any and all
foreplay that may be used to warm things up.
Out there somewhere is some guy who is sporting a less than average sized penis who is desperately seeking you.
No Opinion, here.
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Registered: 01-15-2008
Fri, 11-07-2008 - 12:39pm

Red,

I have had some partners that were definitely tighter than others, but lubrication was key. Vaginas are as different as penises.

Yes, as a guy I can say from experience, that a tighter vagina can give greater sensation and be more difficult to "hold back" , although you can try different things like slowing down your thrusting.

That is not to say that a "tighter" vagina is better and actually a tighter vagina if not properly lubricated can cause a friction sore on a man's penis.

The guys in question may need to give your more foreplay so that you lubricate more or keep a bottle of astroglide handy.

The others have given you some good advice....

FG

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Registered: 12-28-2007
Sat, 11-08-2008 - 3:12am
Thanks for the feedback. Yeah, I've also been told that I'm pretty wet down there, and I'm pretty sure this is an accurate assessment because my gynecologist has even told me that, and I'm also in my mid twenties- I've heard that most women experience problems with that later in age. None of my partners have complained about the "tightness", they've actually given me positive feedback about it. Hopefully things will stay tight for a good while...
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Registered: 04-18-2008
Sat, 11-08-2008 - 7:14am

this is an accurate assessment because my gynecologist has even told me that


This is interesting that a gyn told you this when the level of "wetness" during sex comes from arousal, not just you being you. I know when I have been the least bit tense or distracted, my level of "wetness" during sex has been less. Not saying you are tense during sex, just that lubrication DURING the act of sex can change form encounter to encounter, even during the same encounter! I get very wet easily but dh and I love both love when he enters me when I am a little less wet at the beginning because it definitely feels as he describes "tighter". Also when I was in my twenties and thirties I was a lot LESS naturally lubricating than I am now in my late 40's. Much I have to attribute to my ability to relax more about my activities.


Oh yeah one more thing no one has mentioned, what form of birth control do you use. Believe me I have tried MANY methods and some make me "tighter" -aka less lubed-than others!



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Registered: 03-31-2007
Sat, 11-08-2008 - 8:32am

I'd be a little curious as to why the gyn would mention that. Are you sexually aroused at your visit?

As Liv mentioned, the arousal is what causes your body to start lubricating your vagina. It's also what begins preparing your vagina for entry by opening it up. I don't understand why either of those would be occurring at the gyn office. Usually they need stirrups and artificial lubrication to give a proper exam.

As far as your desire to keep your vagina tight, I would recommend keeping it well toned by doing kegel exercises regularly. As your body matures or you have children, there will be changes, so like any other part of your body, the better you take care of yourself, the better shape you'll be in.





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Sat, 11-08-2008 - 1:30pm
Well, one time a while back I went to the gyn because I thought I was having an issue with discharge, and after some examination she basically told me that I have a lot of "natural lubrication' (exact words) and that there was no medical problem. It's very rare that I ever feel dry down there at any given time. Of course I'm not aroused during an office visit! But like I had mentioned my partners have told me that I get very wet due to foreplay or whatever... As far is birth control I'm not taking a contraceptive right now but I used to take the pill for 5+ years, so I just use condoms.

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