Is It So?
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Is It So?
| Thu, 02-17-2005 - 1:52pm |
I have a curious question for everyone out there and it goes like this:
Hypothetical situation: A young woman has sex for the first time, or so she thinks. She feels nothing from her partner. She can't even tell he's even inside her. No bleeding, no pain. Nada. A few months later she falls in love with another man and sleeps with him. The first time is painful for her. The guy says its even painful for him considering how tight everything was. There was a tiny amount of blood after this first encounter. The man asks after everything is done and over whether she was a virgin before they just slept together. The girl answers no, assuming that the first time she ever had sex counted though nothing was felt.
My question: Was she a virgin?

I would agree. Even if the 1st partner's penis was very small and she felt nothing, it still occurred.
Frankly, I think it's hard to accept a claim of virginity if a woman has engaged in every act under the sun BUT intercourse. TECHNICALLY she may still be, but certainly not in the real sense of the word.
I'll take the counterpoint here. I would say she was still a virgin the second time if the first penis did not penetrate and break the hymen. To give it a Johnny Cochran spin:
If the hymen's intact
There was no sexual act
think that we could all go on for a year talking about what does and what doesn't count as a virgin and all, BUT...
...keeping in context with the story , I believe the 2nd guy was asking in the realms of whether or not she had intercourse, as opposed to whether or not she had simply been intimate with another man.
I could be wrong as always, but the story included details of how the intercourse went, I am led to believe, that much more, that the 2nd guy's question was more directed at THAT part. Hope that makes sense, lol.
So, with that in mind, I think its perfectly honest to answer with an type of answer. Thinking on it, that type of answer covers all because it reveals that she WAS intimate with a man prior and that intercourse WAS deliberately attempted but that she wasn't sure if it was successful or not.
Just my lack of coffee opinion, LOL!
C H A R A C T E R
Thank you Para .... my response to all of these trivial arguments is "What does it have to do with the price of tea in China?" If the answer is nothing, then IMHO it is trivial argument.
CH
Maybe I'm just WAY off here, but right now off the top of my thinking, I still find no fault in him believing he is the first when it comes to intercourse.
He was not your first intimacy, but he WAS your first successful intercourse. If he knows these things and is content with THAT meaning he was your first overall, then I say enjoy the truth in THAT and not worry about it. Enjoy it WITH him, why take it away for useless technicality? Why do that? What does that do for you?
Look, think of it this way, what happens when you "consummate" a marriage? What? Handjobs? LOL! No, of course not. So why don't you view your current relationship THAT way, WITH him, and enjoy that the past was nothing and that your future is everything. Now, what bad thing could POSSIBLY result by doing what Mr. Para says this one single time...right? Right. ;)
Again, I may be totally misunderstanding this whole thing, but if I DID get it right, then thats my opinion for ya.
C H A R A C T E R