is it so terrible to...?

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Registered: 12-26-2004
is it so terrible to...?
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Thu, 10-05-2006 - 6:16am

have a friend with benefits? I'm starting to feel guilty now. Reason is I just moved 2 months ago and have been getting calls at 4:30 in the morning with my new number!! They are fax numbers because I hear a beep. I registered my number at donotcall.gov or whatever and even gave it time to make sure it registered. That was 2 months ago! I feel like I am being punished!

Does anyone else feel guilty? Thanks

C

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Registered: 08-11-2004
Thu, 10-05-2006 - 7:24am
The do not call list is for telemarketers. If your number is on a fax list, that's different. You could turn your phone off at night, or talk to the phone company about the problem, or get caller id and call blocker and block the number that keeps calling.
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Thu, 10-05-2006 - 7:35am

Do you honestly think if you weren't in a FWB then you wouldn't be getting those phone calls at 4:30 am?


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Registered: 07-26-2005
Thu, 10-05-2006 - 10:09am

One has nothing to do with the other, unless your FWB is faxing you in the middle of the night!

As Tish said, if anything you do makes you feel guilty, then stop doing it.

Just get the number and block it. End of story.

PS: Any time you get a new phone number, you'll get lots of strange calls for a while, because someone else had that number recently, and many people don't know it was changed.




Edited 10/5/2006 10:12 am ET by dakine001
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Registered: 01-16-2005
Sat, 10-07-2006 - 3:17am
I am confused by how a fax calling your number relates to a friend with benefits relationship. From my one experience with a friends with benefits with relationship I believe there is some lingering feelings about it. Friends with benefits relationships start out as sex without the committment. However over time they can get intertwined with feelings and make the situation very complicated very quickly. The situation I was in involved a close friend of several years. They started developing feelings for me but I did not develop it form them. As I look back I feel a part of the reason why I did not develop feelings for them is because of the 15 years age gap between us and that we wanted different things. Anyhow I was the one who ended it because I was not willing to move from a friends with benefits situation to having a relationship with them. At the time I ended it was hard because of our history together but I knew it was the right thing to do.
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Sat, 10-07-2006 - 9:30am

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Sun, 10-08-2006 - 10:15pm

It's a long story of how I met my FWB, but he is not romantic and makes me wear platform shoes. I don't mind wearing them, but can't help feel guilty once in a while. I'm only human. BTW, he is 41 and I am 30.

Getting back to the correlation between the fax and the FWB: I work all day at the office from 8:30 to 5, sometimes stay later, which means I wake up at 6 am and sit on a train for an hour, then deal with slow pokes and tourists out on the streets of Manhattan. Right now I am training to prepare for my promotion, while keeping my current position, and training the new hire who will replace me. So I am being pulled in three diff. directions, not to meniton my job is a little hectic to begin with. I deal with highly protected risks/insurance and tons of zeros and dollar signs all day. Who likes to be woken up at 4 am when the alarm is set for 6? As it is, I have a lot on my mind, and once I am jolted awake by the sound of a phone ringing, I cannot go back to sleep. This happened twice in one week. Who wouldn't be mad?

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Mon, 10-09-2006 - 7:31am

Your busy schedule (you and millions of other people), being woken at 4 am by


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Registered: 07-26-2005
Mon, 10-09-2006 - 11:18am

If the calls continue, then call the phone company, and tell them about it, and request a new number if that's what it takes. I still don't see how you connect your FWB situation with automated fax calls.

I think if anything, you're just feeling guilty about your FWB. As Tish said, no one can "make" you wear platform shoes, or do anything else that you don't want to do. If you can't get over feeling guilty, then maybe it's your conscience telling you it's wrong, and you should stop it. Even then I don't think the late nite calls will stop, unless you do something about them.