Is it so wrong for a woman to want FwB??

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-28-2007
Is it so wrong for a woman to want FwB??
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Fri, 12-28-2007 - 2:32pm

Friends with benefits


I recently have come to the conclusion that currently my life is just to busy for a serious relationship.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-15-2006
Fri, 12-28-2007 - 2:41pm

I think that is for you to decide...You just have to be honest with yourself and



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Registered: 03-31-2007
Fri, 12-28-2007 - 2:48pm

Welcome to the board, bbheart25.

I agree with Liv. It's your choice to make, and is based on your own feelings and what is acceptable to you. I had a few FWB situations back in my single days, and have no regrets about any of them.





iVillage Member
Registered: 12-28-2007
Fri, 12-28-2007 - 2:50pm
Now because I brought it up, does it seem as if I'm trampy????
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2006
Fri, 12-28-2007 - 3:03pm

No not to me.

 Rich, good to the last drop

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-31-2007
Fri, 12-28-2007 - 3:16pm

It doesn't seem like you're trampy to me.

I think all people have needs for different types of relationships in their lives. If someone feels that having sex without commitment and love is wrong, then that person should avoid being in a FWB situation.

Personally, I think honesty within a relationship is one of the most important factors. So long as you are both honest with yourselves and each other about your intentions, then you can each make a decision to do what is right for each of you. All seems fair to me.





iVillage Member
Registered: 12-25-2006
Fri, 12-28-2007 - 9:02pm

I don't think there's anything wrong with it.

Carrie

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-12-2006
Sat, 12-29-2007 - 12:44am

There is nothing "wrong" about it, and there is nothing "trampy" about it, unless YOU think it's wrong and trampy.......and you must, because you're asking!


Just remember, most women are incapable of having an ongoing sexual relationship without becoming emotionally attached........and you will probably do that......to justify your actions to yourself.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-20-2007
Thu, 01-03-2008 - 3:22pm
I don't think the fact that you're questioning this necessarily means you shouldn't do it.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-20-2007
Thu, 01-03-2008 - 3:28pm
one other thing- I've actually had a few FWBs and have had more problems with guys getting attached and wanting a relationship than me, so the stereotype that women get attaced doesn't always hold
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Registered: 10-15-2006
Thu, 01-03-2008 - 10:24pm

Stereotypes always have exceptions...Sakura was making a note of the norm. She's quite knowledgeable about a great many things...including relationships.


Women, by nature, are more prone to become attached to a partner once they have become intimate in a physical sense. Women, by nature, equate sex with intimacy and thus feel a personal attachment. It is not much of a stretch to make the leap to thinking that a woman may become emotionally attached.


That is not to say every woman behaves in this manner. I don't think she painted with that broad a brush. There are a great many women who do not become attached to their sexual partners. I would say they make perfect FWB's.


Jessica Lloyd, Women's Sexuality Correspondent - Every other Tuesday on AskMendotcom is an excellent source of information about FWB's and how to avoid the pitfalls of such an arrangement.


Mrs P

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