Is it true? Do some men not enjoy ....

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Is it true? Do some men not enjoy ....
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Fri, 08-13-2004 - 6:28pm
Oral sex? My new man enjoys giving, but informed me he does not like receiving. He said it just doesn't do anything for him, he prefers penetration. It was all I could do to prevent my jaw from hitting the floor. Of course he told me this AFTER I tried to initiate sex by giving him oral. Now, don't try to blame my technique, I've had nothing but rave reviews previously. I'm just a little confused....I thought men loved bjs. Any insight? Anyone?

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Fri, 08-13-2004 - 6:32pm
Yes, it's true.

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Registered: 12-29-2003
Fri, 08-13-2004 - 6:52pm
Yes, it's true. The vast majority of men love oral, but there is a small, but significant minority who don't get into it that much. I'm one and I've found on the internet there are other men like me. Mostly I think it stems from being unable to orgasm from oral or it being very difficult (my case) . Some guys like this seem to think it's because women don't give good oral, but I know in my case it isn't. My wife is very skilled at oral ( experience with previous men, including two exes), she's willing to swallow, but I just don't get there easily. Since we both vastly prefer intercourse and both orgasm easily and often from it, we just use oral sometimes for foreplay - and usually it is mutual since she has no problem orgasming from oral.
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Registered: 07-30-2004
Sat, 08-14-2004 - 1:08am
I don't really like oral all that much either. Its pretty difficult for me to come. I think some guys are also more into the idea than others in addition to different requirements for physical stimulation. I used to not understand what all the fuss was about. Now I'm more into it as a foreplay sort of thing. I like it better when I'm soft, but those times are few and far between when there is a willing female close enough to create an oportunity;) ITs very sensuous that way. I love giving and I'm dissappointed if I don't get to do that. I don't understand how some of my male friends complain about that particualr "chore". Maybe I should offer to fill in for them, if they'll mow my lawn.
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Registered: 06-20-2004
Sat, 08-14-2004 - 3:07am
From my past experiences, I've never been with a guy that didn't like getting bj's. I should add to this post. Is it true that some men don't masterbate? I can honestly tell you that my bf does NOT masterbate. I about dropped my jaw when he told me this. I could not believe that there were actually men out there that didn't masterbate. Any insite on this?
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Registered: 07-22-2004
Sat, 08-14-2004 - 5:48pm
Some men do and some simply don't enjoy fellatio. Now, to add onto that...

...sometimes it depends on what the man is in the mood for at the time too. Mrs. Para and I enjoy deep grinding intercourse SO MUCH that at times we could really really care less about anything else, LOL!

YES its true that some men don't masturbate just like some women don't. The clitoris, by what I've learned anyway, is MUCH more sensitive than the head of a penis, yet we're taught for the most part that there are actually more women who don't masturbate than there are men who don't. Now we'll never really know, but we all have our own theories anyway. Glad we have message boards like this to add some opinion to our thinking, LOL!!

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Registered: 07-30-2004
Sat, 08-14-2004 - 6:14pm
There is a saying about masturbation: "98% of men masturbate and the rest are lying." A variation is "98% of men masturbate and the rest had horrible accidents." I know one guy who says that he doesn't masturbate. He's always horny and trying to pick-up and generaly making an ass of himself. I'm not sure if his lack of masturbation makes him horny, or if the fact that he is really phony makes him say that he doesn't masturbate.
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Registered: 05-27-2004
Sun, 08-15-2004 - 12:28am
Where do people get the idea that ALL men are alike? Or all women, for that matter? There is nothing under the sun that ALL men (or women) like. And, for those who don't like it because they can't finish that way, who says you have to finish to enjoy it? Women can have sex without having an orgasm, and be very satisfied.

Maybe your guy is like that, if he can't finish, he figures why bother. How sad that they don't realize that some women love to give it, and whether or not he finishes has nothing to do with their pleasure in doing it.

A good relationship means "give and take". If he doesn't particularly care for it, but she does, then why not let her do it? If he loves giving, and she doesn't get much out of it, will it kill her to let him do it anyway?

I'm not talking about force here, just simple ambivalence. If something is particularly distasteful to a person, their partner should understand that, and not try to force or harass them into doing something completely against their beliefs or morals. It's called communication and compromise.

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Registered: 06-11-2003
Sun, 08-15-2004 - 8:07am
My fiance would rather not recieve oral sex. He says that it just doesn't do much for him. Instead, he would rather I leave a trail of kisses down his stomach, or lightly run my fingers up and down his thighs.
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Registered: 01-30-2004
Sun, 08-15-2004 - 11:41am
Too too funny ... _how_ guys differ. My bf is either being blown by/facialing me or thinking about it, as far as I can tell. Just for fun, I told him that if we're ever together and he wants head for any reason, to just tell me and I'll try to find a way within a minute or two ... not always possible of course but we've been way creative on a couple of occasions for sure. Not that he doesn't like regular vaginal sex, but he just likes oral/facials about ten times more, AFAICT.
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Registered: 07-22-2004
Sun, 08-15-2004 - 12:02pm
>>There is a saying about masturbation: "98% of men masturbate and the rest are lying."<<

Thats interesting, cause there's that SAME saying about women too, LOL, albeit a different number. There's even another saying that faking orgasms isn't the only thing they're good at faking either.

*****Thank goodness we all know better than to believe every "there's a saying" that we hear about though. LOL!! ;D

Good point you brought up.

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