It's getting uncomfortable

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Registered: 08-04-2004
It's getting uncomfortable
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Tue, 07-26-2005 - 1:32pm

I saw my FWB very recently, he is wonderful in bed. He and I like it fast and rough, the problem is that in the last occasions I get very sored afterwards and we cannot have more than one intercourse per night.

I am relatively inexperience so I don't know if this soreness is part of his sex style or is it that I am not lubricated enough?. These sessions usually last an hour non-stop, so I wonder if it could be the case that I cannot produce lubrication for so long?. But I also wonder if he is thrusting very hard and that's why I get sored.

I just want to add that I do not feel any pain DURING sex, but afterwards when we are lying & taking a rest...:-)

iliana




Edited 7/26/2005 1:35 pm ET ET by iliana_9
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 07-26-2005 - 4:39pm

For ME, I can become sore if thrusting goes on longer than normal and after I've orgasmed since my natural lubrication will dry up afterwards.

My DH went through a period last year where he would have to forcefully thrust for 30 minutes to orgasm. This was due to medications he was taking. I was not used to so much friction for so long a time and I would become very sore.

So, it may help for you to stop and apply some lube mid-session or consider spending more time in foreplay so that he doesn't have to thrust for so long.

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Registered: 11-26-2004
Tue, 07-26-2005 - 5:04pm

I can't give you advice from experience, because I have never had intercourse for that length of time(and I've been having sex for over 30 years.) I just never met a man with that much stamina. ;-) The only way DH does last slightly longer, is to break it up and remove himself periodically(sort of the start and stop method) and move on to something else.

I would suggest 1)Use lube(in case it's a lubrication problem); and 2)give him more foreplay, till he's almost to the brink of orgasm; certainly that should speed things up.

It's possible though, that he's banging(;-)) you too hard. There's nothing you can do about that though, since you said that you both like it that way. Ahhh, there's always a price to pay for pleasure... ;-)

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Registered: 11-22-2004
Tue, 07-26-2005 - 5:42pm
Agreed, when i was first dating my FWB, who is significantly larger and lasts much much longer than my previous BF, I had the exact same thing, e.g. I simply couldn't do it in the morning when we'd done it the night before, everything was far too tender. He is very intense and completely wild in bed. I honestly felt like I was _walking_ funny the next day, that's how sore I was! I mean not sore sore but just really tender sore lol. But after a few more times I got used to it and it is fine now. I would say ours tend to last an hour or so too.
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Wed, 07-27-2005 - 6:54am

Thanks all for your response.

I will consider to spend more time giving him foreplay. Sometimes, I think that my muscles are not quite relaxed enough, maybe that increases the friction and let me all sored.
Lubrication is not the problem, he produces precum all the time. So, although I enjoy quite a lot his style, we will have to spend more time having foreplay.

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Registered: 01-05-2006
Thu, 03-09-2006 - 5:00pm

Thrusting -when the man is the only one doing it -what is the woman receiving out of it? anything?

JudithS

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 03-09-2006 - 6:08pm
The woman is receiving the same sensations that she gets when she is actively meeting his thrusts. He is still inside her and moving the same way, whether she is moving or not.