Just can't handle it all - penis size

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Just can't handle it all - penis size
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Wed, 01-17-2007 - 2:42pm





Edited 1/18/2007 4:22 pm ET by brenda_strurm

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Registered: 01-16-2007
Wed, 01-17-2007 - 3:57pm

How big is he? Im 9 1/2 inchs long and very thick I use plenty of lube also let the women on top so she can control the depth. Is it lenght or girth that is the problem?

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Wed, 01-17-2007 - 4:03pm

Hi, First off congrats on your new found love! It's so nice to just hear there are guys still around that are open and secure enough to want to take care of the needs of a single mom. Sounds like you have found a real keeper there!

My sister ran into more or less the same situation just like a little over a year ago which it was with a colored man also.
Well she too couldn't handle the full length of him either but it wasn't a problem at first because he was gentle and honored her limits but then as the relationship went on he became more aggressive from time to time and she would end up getting cramps afterwards from the deep thrusting.
And mind you she still wasn't taking it all. My advice to her was that she needed to put a stop to that before he ended up messing up her insides and if he didn't get rid of him. Well she ended up talking to some gay guy and he told her that with his lenght she may just not be physically able to take all of him vaginally but she could anally. Well to make a long story short after alot of practice she is now able to take all of him that way and she says she actually likes it and is able to have an orgasms that way.
Now I'm not saying this is the thing to do by no means cause I have had anal sex once in my life many many years ago and found out very quickly it wasn't for me and that was with a normal sized penis not a GIFTED one as you call it.

Honey I must say by your post you sound like a very smart and careing person but just remember don't do anything you don't want to do. And I do so believe in order for a relationship to work both parties have to compormise but they also have to meet in the middle too.

Lots of Luck,




Edited 1/17/2007 4:05 pm ET by aliasquest
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Wed, 01-17-2007 - 4:30pm
I haven't actually measured to see exactly how big it is, all I know is I can take all of him and it is because of length. We have did it with me being on top and that didn't seem to be much different and I havn't used lube for the fact that I am definitely not having any problem with getting wet or staying wet and for that matter I must say I have never been so wet down there in my life! But anyways I feel I am very tolerant of pain but actaully what it feels like is it's hitting a wall inside me and like it's like bottoming out.
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Wed, 01-17-2007 - 5:17pm

Brenda, thanks for the reply and the insight. I'd have to agree with you that the backdoor thing isn't the way to go with a gifted man. I do want be able to take all of him but anally would definitely be last on the list cause not only the lenght being intimidating all the sudden the girth comes in to play then. I have engaged in anal sex a couple times in my past and it just seems a little one sided on the fun factor.

Thanks, Brenda

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Wed, 01-17-2007 - 5:31pm

He is probally hitting your cervix some women find pain from that others love it in the past I was with some women that would grind hard and moan looving me tapping their cervix bring them to multi 0s some even squrited they loved the way I filled every inch of there vagina at first it was pain like you are experince but after a few sessions turned into pleasure ;) If you dont mine me asking now that you have gone big would you go small again?

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Wed, 01-17-2007 - 6:25pm
Why do I get the distinct feeling that all of these posts are from the same person using different screen names?
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Wed, 01-17-2007 - 7:42pm
Good grief, I only wish we all had such dilemas!!!
All I can say is that your lucky to have him and if he says hes satisfied then he is hon. Just keep enjoying him and enjoy being enjoied by him!!!
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Registered: 12-12-2006
Thu, 01-18-2007 - 12:03am

Why are you being a "typical" woman, and NOT listening to him? HE says it's no big deal, so why do you want to MAKE it into a big deal?

Are you aware that a man's penis has all the nerve endings in the head? THAT is his "pleasure" center! That's why being able to take all of him is not that important to him......because the head of his penis is getting the stimulation he needs, and he's happy with that!

When he goes too deep, he's hitting your cervix, and for most women, that's PAINFUL! Make sure he stays "gentle" and doesn't try to thrust too hard. Enjoy him, and stop analyzing him. He says it's fine. Believe him.

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Registered: 12-12-2006
Thu, 01-18-2007 - 12:06am

Sorry, but the majority of women will "moan and groan" when you hit their cervix, NOT out of pleasure, but out of pain!

As for the multiple orgasms and "squirting" (female ejaculation), that comes from stimulation of the "g" spot.....which you were probably getting at the same time that you were "tapping" her cervix.

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Thu, 01-18-2007 - 7:14am
I was wondering the same thing!

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