"Just get it over with honey."

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Registered: 12-10-2007
"Just get it over with honey."
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Mon, 12-10-2007 - 10:51am

First of all I do love my boyfriend. Our sex life used to be amazing. Seriously the stories I had were wild and kinky and my orgasms were amazing. I always could brag about his talents because he was such a giving lover not caring about himself nearly as much as me. A couple months ago I decided to give him the only thing that he ever asked me for that I wouldn’t do. Anal. It was the biggest mistake of my life. Now all he wants is anal. Even if I tell him no he still just goes and does it. He doesn’t care about getting me off anymore. Every time he touches me I cringe now because I know it will end up with me having a sore ass and being sexually shafted from an orgasm.


I don’t even like having sex with him anymore. Nothing is fun. I tried talking to him about this but he wont listen. All he does is nod his head then tell me that he is a horrible boyfriend then leave. He used to be an amazing lover now things are the worst they have ever been and they aren’t getting better. On the odd occasion that he does get me off he complains the whole time and usually turns on the tv. I cant even orgasm to him anymore (which sucks becuase I get it about 3 or 4

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Registered: 03-08-2004
Tue, 12-11-2007 - 7:06am

Yes it's okay to say no after doing it.

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Registered: 11-17-2007
Tue, 12-11-2007 - 8:42am
Good luck with your talk. However, if it doesn't go well I do think that you should consider the advice Tish and Em have given you. Remember that you are young and have pretty much your whole life in front of you.
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Registered: 12-12-2006
Tue, 12-11-2007 - 11:26am

It's okay to say NO anytime you want to say no.

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Registered: 12-12-2007
Wed, 12-12-2007 - 7:43am
My DW does not seem to care for anal but I do. Keeping this in mind I let her let me know when she will allow it. Not sure I would even even enjoy it if I had to ask for it. I look at it as a treat. He needs to be more respectful of your needs. Good luck.
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Registered: 03-31-2007
Wed, 12-12-2007 - 7:54am
Welcome to the board, Fred, and thanks for joining in. We have a December Roll Call & Holiday Cheer thread you might want to visit. It's a great place to get to know some of the members a little better.




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Registered: 12-12-2007
Wed, 12-12-2007 - 8:05am
Thank you. I am new and a little shy - so go easy on me.
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Registered: 12-12-2006
Wed, 12-12-2007 - 9:55am
What's sad, and also important, is that your man doesn't go easy on you.
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Registered: 12-12-2007
Wed, 12-12-2007 - 10:03am
Feelings and emotions are very - very important. If he knows it bothers you that much then he needs to back off. It took my wife a long time - but one night she initiated it and now it is about once every few months as a "treat". I think that if I had pushed this on her she would never have done it and would not enjoy it at as she does now - WHEN SHE WANTS TO.

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