just lost virginity

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Registered: 06-23-2007
just lost virginity
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Sat, 06-23-2007 - 7:47pm
im 20yrs old and i just lost my virginity a month ago. the only thing im feeling when my boyfriend is inside of me is having to pee and it uncomfortable. Is that normal? and how much longer do i have to wait to actually have an orgasm?
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Registered: 12-12-2006
Sat, 06-23-2007 - 11:48pm

What you're feeling is normal. The friction is probably irritating your urethra, which gives you that feeling of needing to urinate. It's just a "feeling" and you should empty your bladder before sex so you'll know you don't really have to go.

There's little or no feeling inside your vagina, so you're not going to feel much of anything. If it's uncomfortable, maybe you're too dry......and you should use some lubricant. Maybe you're not getting enough foreplay to be completely aroused, well lubricated and relaxed. Make sure you take lots of time for foreplay before trying intercourse.

How long before you have an orgasm? Maybe never, particularly from intercourse alone. Very few women have orgasms from intercourse....they're usually from clitoral stimulation. And usually they don't just happen, you have to learn what it takes, and how to allow them to happen. For some women it comes naturally, but mostly it takes time, sometimes years. But, you're not there just to have orgasms, they're a bonus if you're doing everything right. You should have pleasure from the intimacy, and that will bring on orgasms...if not, you still have the pleasure, or should if you're doing things right.

For more info: www.the-clitoris.com That will explain a lot of things to you, and to your b/f.....who has to be able to help you get there.

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Sun, 06-24-2007 - 8:47am

Welcome to the board gjg2205.

Congratulations on loosing your virginity! Orgasms for women are a bit more difficult than they are for men. If you have proper foreplay and are aroused enough, intercourse should feel pleasant. If you are concentrating on the sensation that you have to pee, chances are, you will never relax enough to enjoy what is happening.

Making sure you have emptied your bladder prior to intercourse is always recommended. If you are receiving g-spot stimulation, that will also make you feel as if you need to pee. The link that Sakura gave you has a lot of helpful information, I definitely recommend checking that out.

Have you ever had an orgasm during masturbation? It's the best way to learn about your body and the kind of stimulation you need to orgasm. Most women have orgasms through clitoral stimulation, and this can be combined with intercourse too. You may also want to read these:

Why can’t I have an Orgasm?
http://love.ivillage.com/lnssex/sexorgasm/0,,drruth_qr4q,00.html

Help! I’ve never had an orgasm
http://love.ivillage.com/lnssex/sexorgasm/0,,drpatti_216,00.html



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Registered: 04-27-2006
Sun, 06-24-2007 - 3:22pm
I would concur that you might not be getting enough foreplay. My gf and I always have lots of foreplay it is a part of the total act of lovemaking and sex and it makes it that much more enjoyable and fun.