Just Sharing...But What About You?

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Just Sharing...But What About You?
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Sun, 01-16-2005 - 1:30pm
Just something I wanted to share...
With previous boyfriends, (not that I've had many, lol) I've always found that I would get easily bored with kissing and with their touch. I had never really done anything very sexual, but it seemed like when it came to making out I had sexual ADD. I joke about it now...but I would never find it arousing or interesting even, and sometimes found myself dreading it. Naturally, this made me a bit worried, lol. I thought I was destined to go through life this way. Nothing seemed to turn me on. And for that reason, I was never really a sexual person. I just had no desire for anything but hand-holding and cuddling. Pretty unfortunate, eh? But don't feel bad for me yet...hehe. This past summer I started dating my current boyfriend, who at the time was my best friend for over a year. We already had an amazing connection emotionally when we started casually dating. Then there was one night where I saw him move in for a kiss, and in my head I was dreading it, afraid it would be just another boring kiss. BUT IT WASN'T! My goodness, I could tell from the first kiss that this was the real thing. To this day, 8 months later, all he has to do is kiss me and I'm immediately turned on. We have incredible chemistry. Needless to say, I'm a much more sexual person now, lol. So, happy ending for me. But I was wondering...guys, girls...do any of you get shivers down your spine with just one kiss from your SO? Or am I just some sort of deviant now? (I'm kidding, of course)
Thanx!!
Sassy
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Registered: 07-03-2004
Sun, 01-16-2005 - 1:52pm
With my ex, I didn't get any tingling- of course the only kisses I got from him for 4 years were pecks on the cheeks or something like that. With my new bf(we were together years ago), whenever he kisses me it's one of those- gotta make sure you're standing or leaning against something because your knees give out and you melt away- kinda kisses. lol Does that make sense?
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Sun, 01-16-2005 - 1:58pm
Yep, and I think it all has to do with how your feelings and emotions are about the person you are kissing.

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Registered: 10-18-2003
Sun, 01-16-2005 - 3:09pm

Nope, you're not alone. I too can get the tremors from just a kiss or two. Not every kiss, as we've been together long enough that we have a lot of affectionate, but non-sexual kisses. But there are certains ways and times that he can just make me melt with a few kisses. In fact, early in our relationship (we'd had 4-5 dates), he spent an evening just caressing my available skin (that which wasn't already covered by clothing; we weren't at the removing lcothing stage yet, so that meant hands, wrists, neck, face) and kissing me. When he left that night, I was the wettest I think I'd ever been and it wouldn't have taken more than a touch in the nether region to make me climax.


That said, he doesn't have that effect on me as much anymore; part of it was the "newness" and excitement of a new relationship. But there are still times, oh boy ....

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Registered: 05-27-2004
Sun, 01-16-2005 - 3:09pm

It's called "chemistry"....(not to be confused with "love"...two different things!) It's either there, or it's not....you can't MAKE it be there. Evidently, till now, you didn't have that chemistry with your partners.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 01-16-2005 - 5:45pm
No, sounds like a normal reaction when there is chemistry and attraction between two people.