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Just a thought...
| Sat, 02-10-2007 - 8:56am |
If a guy has occasional ED, does his desire increase or decrease? Is the feeling of possible failure again make him want to avoid sex altogether? Or does he want to "prove" himself?

The occasional loss of an erection has nothing to do with "desire". Women who don't know better think they lose it because they're not interested.....when in reality, if they weren't interested, they wouldn't have gotten the erection in the first place.
What happens next depends entirely on the man. A knowledgeable man knows it happens to every man occasionally, and doesn't think twice about it. A man who doesn't know his own body might get upset or worried about it, and cause what's called a "self fulfilling prophecy".....meaning he's so worried it will happen again, that it DOES happen again, caused by the worrying. Then it can become a vicious circle.
A man's erection (and ejaculation) is controlled by his brain (Unless he has a physical problem), just as a woman's orgasm originates in the brain. If either sex concentrates on worrying that it won't happen, it probably won't. The key is to relax and not worry about it.
It definitely doesn't work 100% of the time, but that's not erectile dysfunction. When I really tired, or stressed, or whatever, it doesn't always get that hard or stay that way. But if I understand your question, for sure he'd want to have another go at it. I just wouldn't bring up his apparent inability to get the job done.
Most often everything works fine. Sometimes I don't have a very stiff erection but can have a big orgasm. Sometimes I can have a rock-hard erection and it doesn't orgasm. It's totally normal for it not to be perfect all the time. Really!