justs wants sex?

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justs wants sex?
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Fri, 05-06-2005 - 1:00pm
If you meet someone, and he lets you notice him check out your body, focusing on hip region for 5-10 seconds... is he sending vibes that he wants to sleep with you, go down on you, or just acting rude?

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In reply to: cuteg345
Fri, 05-06-2005 - 4:27pm
Well, he's obviously interested in the package you present but that doesn't mean that he's necessarily interested in you as a person. He would have to get to know you first.
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In reply to: cuteg345
Fri, 05-06-2005 - 4:28pm

Could be all of the above, however, to me, that's rude to do it so blatantly.

It's also possible that you were misconstruing the whole thing, too. He may have just been looking down, in that general direction, to avoid your eyes.




Edited 5/6/2005 4:31 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001
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In reply to: cuteg345
Fri, 05-06-2005 - 4:48pm
This is an interesting thread, but it seems all to be focused on the male in question and no thought had been given to the fact that Cuteg might be giving off some signals that he interprets as a come on. We forget that when we find ourselves in proximity with something male and beautiful our body language, glances, even pheremones send out to him a message that we wouldn't mind exploring possibilities, too. As for whether it is interest or sex, I am not sure it is possible to separate the two. Just thoughts. Elaine
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In reply to: cuteg345
Fri, 05-06-2005 - 4:54pm
so if i checked him out first, it makes it right? I did actually check him out... and then he checked me out... so u think i invited him? i just looked up to down and had a slight smile on my face? maybe im guilty of inciting him..... am i?
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In reply to: cuteg345
Fri, 05-06-2005 - 5:04pm
Well, most of the men I've known, including my DH, are completely clueless when a woman is attracted to them! Generally, they simply don't pick up on the body language or subtle signals that women tend to use in flirting. It has to be pretty obvious or they don't catch it.


Edited 5/6/2005 5:10 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001
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In reply to: cuteg345
Fri, 05-06-2005 - 5:07pm
Yes, if you started it by looking his body up and down, then, yes, you set the standard in this case which was to be blatantly sexual.
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In reply to: cuteg345
Fri, 05-06-2005 - 5:13pm
I'd say he's playing you. He's testing to see how you'd handle his blatant display. He wants to make sure you're game. If I were you, I'd play along. Flirt and act all interested and then say "Nice meeting you...bye now!" ;-)
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In reply to: cuteg345
Fri, 05-06-2005 - 5:34pm
so hes most likeley a big time don juan?
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In reply to: cuteg345
Mon, 05-09-2005 - 8:00am

Hello cureg345,

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I find him very attractive, and i think its a huge turn on, but i feel guilty-- cuz everyone says its wrong of him,,, r u guys dating seriosly?? or its all about hooking up? does it show hes experienced? or inexperienced? maybe hes a curios virgin?
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I think that you should enjoy having someone who admires your body and feels attracted to you. My lover and I are not dating seriously. I wanted to explore my sexuality and he showed me from the first time he saw me with lust that all he wanted was sex. I found that quite exciting.

I can separate love from sex. He is very experienced and I am learning a lot of things, new positions and new ways to enjoy sex, without any worries or guilt.

It is obvious that you like him and that you liked the way he looks at you. Just make clear in your mind what you want from him, is it love? or is it just sex?, or both?.

Iliana

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In reply to: cuteg345
Mon, 05-09-2005 - 5:25pm
I want to develop a relationship,, however, i dont know if that s what he has in mind,,, and i dont want to get to hurt....

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