Keeping him out

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Registered: 07-18-2003
Keeping him out
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Mon, 07-25-2005 - 4:52pm
Not that I'd want to keep him out, but maybe for a while to drive him wild. Someone told me if one does the kegel exercises enough, one can clamp the opening so tight an erection can not enter. Could that be possible?
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Mon, 07-25-2005 - 5:43pm

Sure, it's possible but it depends entirely on the woman. However, a lack of natural lubrication could also keep a man from being able to penetrate.

I've been doing kegels for 20+ years and have good control but I still can't keep my DH out! LOL!




Edited 7/25/2005 5:44 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001
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Mon, 07-25-2005 - 7:40pm

When DH and I begin the deed, many times he is against me and acts like he is forcing it in, but it won't go in. That TURNS me on for some reason. Maybe it's the fantasy of being rape-proof? On the kegel muscles, I think it'd be easier to keep him out originally before a person opens up than later during the deed.

Now that's a question. In the early stages I find it easy to clamp down with my muscles. Later, I just feel so opened, and I don't think I can clamp down. When DH is finishing, he sometimes asks me to squeeze, but I can't then. Are others that way?

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Tue, 07-26-2005 - 1:37pm

I had a GF who had given birth "a few times" vaginally. She had excellent Kegels and the more-aroused she became, the tighter she squeezed. We were in the general practice of her experiencing an orgasm or two or three as foreplay before the main course. Often if I did not penetrate her before the 3rd orgasm then there was no hope until she had the Big "O" and suddenly went limp & relaxed enough to allow ANYTHING in.

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Registered: 07-11-2005
Tue, 07-26-2005 - 6:34pm

2 questions

one how do i work on my kegal muscles

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two what is DH

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Registered: 11-26-2004
Tue, 07-26-2005 - 6:47pm

The easiest way is to pretend that you have a ball inside of your vagina. Now try and squeeze it. You'll feel everything, even your clitoris, pull inwards. You know how during arousal and orgasm you feel that your genitals are a centrifuge of your very existence...;-} -- kegels use the same dynamics. You can also alienate the correct way of doing kegels during urination. While urinating stop the flow....OK....so you just did a kegel. ;-) Another "natural" way of doing kegels is by simply orgasming--either via sex or masturbation. If you're multi-orgasmic you can get quite a genital work-out. tee hee

DH = Darling or Dear Husband

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Wed, 07-27-2005 - 1:12am
The easiest way to isolate those muscles is to stop your urine flow during urination. Once you do that, you'll be able to do them any time, anywhere. Try doing 25-50 a day and see how much you'll improve your control over time!
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Fri, 07-29-2005 - 6:04pm

I think I knew your ex-GF. With strong muscles a woman voluntarily, or after a couple orgasms can keep a guy out. Like you have to tickle to distract her to sneak in.

Eons ago I knew a woman who'd let you in, and practiced her kegel's so much she could use her muscles to clamp down hard preventing an ejaculation from entering. She'd relax, sense the organ's preparation, and again painfully squeeze against the vein like an iron fist. She accepted it only when she was ready.