kegal question

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Registered: 12-07-2005
kegal question
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Thu, 03-23-2006 - 5:17pm

Ok this is kind of an awkward question. Ive been doing kegals lately, but i'm not sure if i'm doing them right. I read online that when you are going to the bathroom *urinating* you can stop the flow from coming out, start, stop, etc and the muscles that you use to do this are the muscles that you use to do the kegals. Is this right? this is what i've been doing

Has anyone tried this and did they work? are they supposed to make you tighter down below?

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Registered: 03-08-2004
Thu, 03-23-2006 - 5:57pm

Yes, it sounds like you're doing them right.

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Thu, 03-23-2006 - 9:40pm

Kegels don't make you tighter. They just tone the muscles up done there. Its like doing crunches or stretches..It makes the muscles nice..I guess..

And if you can stop and start the flow of urine, then you are doing it right. It was a life-saver for me when I was pregnant and had to pee w/ nowhere to go.

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Registered: 10-18-2001
Thu, 03-23-2006 - 10:08pm
Like the others have said, they don't actually make you tighter as such, they just give you the ability to give your man a good firm squeeze and get him in a good grip. He's not going to argue over semantics and technicalities when you do it to him - he's just going to like the "tighter" feeling! LOL!
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Fri, 03-24-2006 - 10:39am

well sometimes i feel like when i'm having sex i dont feel as tight as i used to

Could i have stretched out? I've never given birth or anything. I dont know if it happens from being wet or what...but it doesnt feel as tight as it once did.

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Registered: 10-18-2001
Fri, 03-24-2006 - 3:35pm
I think that it is probably just part of getting older and the changes that your body goes through as you age - *nothing* feels as tight as it did when you were in your late teens/early twenties. I know that my joints dont feel as tight or as good as they used to. My six pack has turned into a keg, and my hair is growing in places I don't want it, and disappearing in places I want to keep it. My skin has lost that youthful glow and tightness. LOL! EVERYTHING loosens up over time and your vagina is probably the same. It doesn't stretch out of shape as such but it probably changes a little with time and the muscles and body around it aren't quite as youthful and elastic and as toned as they were.
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Fri, 03-24-2006 - 4:33pm

hmm, well that stinks then. I'm only 27, i didnt think that was an age where something like this would be happening

Unfortunately my current boyfriend is smaller than my ex...i dont know if that could have something to do with it as well. It's worse when im reall wet.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 03-24-2006 - 4:58pm

When we get more comfortable in a relationship, then we become more arousable and it can seem as if those muscles are less tight. But what is likely happening is that you're becoming more aroused and expanding more fully.

Have you thought of doing the kegels or consciously contracting during intercourse? Your partner will enjoy it and it will add to your pleasure as well. I've been doing kegels for about 23 yrs. now and I have great control to the point where I can rythmically squeeze his erection going up and down. Needless to say, he has benefitted from my doing them as well. But the best and most enjoyable way to keep all those muscles toned is through orgasm!

And yes, being too lubricated can diminish the friction, so try tissuing off the excess whenever you feel the need. Or change positions.

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Fri, 03-24-2006 - 5:22pm

well with my last boyfriend i would do the kegals and he could feel them, he said that it would hurt sometime, esp if i did it after he came.

but i did it with my now bf (after he came) and he said he didnt feel anything...it's sort of frustrating to be honest. He may have been soft (but still in me) i will have to try again i guess

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Fri, 03-24-2006 - 5:51pm

I would recommend that you just stop worrying about it. We shouldn't feel the need to impress a partner by jumping through hoops or pulling out the tricks or novelties. Being in the moment, being enthusiastic and responsive are more important, IMO. Concentrate on the experience as a whole but be realistic in your expections.

Try keeping things drier and change positions when needed. See if that helps with the lack of friction.

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Sat, 03-25-2006 - 6:46pm

>>hmm, well that stinks then. I'm only 27, i didnt think that was an age where something like this would be happening<<

LOL! I didn't realise that you were only 27yo. You probably haven't got many problems with that at this point, although I'm sure that you've probably noticed a few changes compared to when you were, say, 17yo.

As (I think it was Kat) mentioned, you do relax physically and mentally in a stable relationship and if your b/f is smaller then Yeah, you're going to notice a difference. Clearly if your b/f is smaller in the penis size department then you will notice that it's not as "snug" as with previous larger b/fs. Getting very wet has an effect too. More lube = more slippery and less friction and sensation.

I'm beginning to think that this is probably something that you shouldn't worry about too much. Sure, it's something to talk about and kick a few ideas around, but how big a deal is it really for you?

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