Kissing - yuck?

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Registered: 07-06-2004
Kissing - yuck?
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Tue, 07-06-2004 - 10:40pm
I have this issue with kissing. I'm not sure what my problem is. I love my husband. Been with him for 15 years, but the idea of kissing kind of doesn't sit well with me. And it is really affecting him. I think I have a problem with my mouth and not so much his mouth.

I have to admit that kissing really turns me on. It enhances our lovemaking. So, why do I have this mental block of not wanting to do it? I just kind of wanted to pour my heart out and maybe hear what some self-assured and confident women might have to offer.

Thanks for your time..

Feeling blue.

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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: redzgal
Wed, 07-07-2004 - 9:24am
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: redzgal
Wed, 07-07-2004 - 12:03pm
Who knows why we feel the way we do? Maybe there's something in your past that would explain it if you did some soul searching.

Has anyone ever said anything to make you feel negatively about kissing or the way you kissed? One small, seemingly harmless, comment to a vunerable person can devastate. My older brother used to make fun of my ears. Why? I don't know. But now, I still feel that they look funny even though no one else has ever mentioned them at all.

Try to look back into your past, maybe all the way to your childhood, and figure out why yo feel this way and narrow down WHAT it is that you think is wrong with your mouth. If necessary, you might consider counseling. But, I think you probably already know what started these feelings.

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Registered: 06-22-2004
In reply to: redzgal
Wed, 07-07-2004 - 4:37pm
I dated a guy for 2.5 years who REFUSED to kiss me unless I begged him. And if I got kissed, it was like a huge reward for something I did for him. In my opinion, that's RIDICULOUS. I found out later that he never "really loved me" and that's part of the reason he didn't want to kiss me. It was too intimate. You need to think over your relationship and decide why you are feeling this way. Maybe there's more to it than simply a physical distaste.

Kelly

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: redzgal
Wed, 07-07-2004 - 5:40pm
Hum. I can't really help but I just wanted to respond that I have a similar thing. I don't really enjoy kissing. I have a weird thing about people touching/being close to my face and I think it ties into that. I know its weird.

I have kissed probably ...gee... maybe 30ish people? I am not saying that I have NEVER enjoyed it, but all and all it isn't something I really like.

My fiance gets his feelings hurt when I push him away but he also knows its not him, its me. I do enjoy it more when we both have just brushed our teeth, but its still not a major turn on for me. I usually just suffer through and try to make it fun for him because I know he likes it.

Also, I wear glasses, so I REALLY HATE when his face touches my glasses. I usually take them off but then I can't see ANYTHING.

So, just to let you know, you aren't the only one.

Sara

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Registered: 07-06-2004
In reply to: redzgal
Mon, 07-12-2004 - 11:37pm
I think my issue is germs and bad breath. I haven't always been like this. It just seemed to creep up on me. I have to really focus in order to not think about it. I ask my husband to go brush his teeth and he gets offended because bad breath doesn't bother him. He says I should love h im the way he is.

Thanks to all those that replied. You helped.