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| Mon, 08-07-2006 - 1:10pm |
My girlfriend of a year and a half is coming to my house on Friday the 11th. We have not seen each other in well over a month because of the distance. We have planned to go back for our last year of school on Wed the 16th. I am looking for things I can do inside and outside of the bedroom to show her a good time. I just want these first few days to be exciting. If anyone has any comments I would love to hear them. Thank you.

First I'd suggest you not put too much pressure on yourself to show her a good time, as that could backfire and cause anxiety. There are always holidays and seasonal breaks where you'll have opportunities to get together.
Are you concerned that you spend too much or too little time inside or outside the bedroom?
What have the two of you enjoyed doing in the past? This can vary widely for everyone. Are you beach people? Do you enjoy eating out? Cooking in? Movies? Cuddling? Dancing? Parks? Museums? Do you live in a small town? A large city?
As far as sex, you could probably get some good ideas from Laura Corn's Hotter Sex board here on iVillage: http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-rlimproveyou.
Why not discuss this with her beforehand to get her thoughts on the subject? She's probably just as anxious as you. Perhaps thinking of it as a team effort rather than placing the responsibility solely on your own shoulders could be helpful.
My impulse would simply be to enjoy your time together no matter what you're doing (even if it's nothing), rather than focusing on a particular event or outing. But again, that's me, not you.
Good luck.
Pay excrutiatingly close attention to her body language--that's the best guide. It never hurts to ask, either. It's really sexy when you're in bed and your partner snuggles up to you and says with a meaningful look in their eye, "Show me what you want me to do." Pour your soul into that line and it'll get a good response. Stroking the body and little kisses on the shoulder, neck, etc. are a good accompaniment. I also like Katmandoo's advice about not overthinking it. It does seem fake and is less enjoyable if someone tries too hard. The best advice I could ever give guys arout oral sex is to stop trying to "get it right" and have fun down there! Kiss, lick, suck, move around and give attention to every part of her genitalia. Flip her over (slowly and tenderly) and do it from behind. Or lay her on her side and try it from that angle. You just manipulate the legs as you go along. The same principle applies to breast affection. It's about loving her body with your mouth and hands, not any particular "technique".
You could always give her a back massage...then progress to other body parts. Neutrogena body oil works perfectly as a massage oil and you can get it at the drugstore. Candlelight always helps to create a romantic atmosphere. If there's an adult store near you, go get a finger vibrator. They can be used in many different ways (on both of you, but since you're asking about things to do to *her*...). A book on how to make love to a woman would be helpful. I wish I could recommend a good one...perhaps someone here or in a different forum can suggest an edifying gem. True love-making is an artform, and there are skills you can develop that will make you a better lover. There's always room for improvement, no matter the person or how much experience they've had.
Outside of the bedroom, if it isn't too hot, a picnic in a scenic locale would be romantic--on a blanket. I have to mention that because there are parks with picnic areas, but eating at a table just doesn't have the same effect. Take a boom box and some soft, sensual music with you, then offer her your hand and dance together in the grass. You could leave little love notes for her in her bags and stuff.
More than anything, women want to feel cherished and beautiful. They want to feel like they're the sexiest woman on earth to their partner. It's more about creating a mood with women than pulling rabbits out of hats. Enjoy your weekend :-)