Lack of tongue during kiss???
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Lack of tongue during kiss???
| Mon, 04-04-2005 - 9:07am |
I just started dating a new guy this past week. There's a slight age difference, I'm 27, he's 23. This is my first time dating a younger guy, but so far it's going great, he's very sweet and affectionate and it's felt so comfortable. We've only been on a few dates, no sex yet. I don't think either of us want to rush because things are going so well.
But here's where I'm a little confused. He's a very good kisser, but doesn't give much tongue when he kisses. So I'm wondering what's up with this? Could this just be the way he is, or is he nervous, or what? I'd love to hear some opinions on this. Thanks!
Morgan

When I give my DW an open mouth kiss, I seldom place my tongue into her mouth. Instead I touch it to her lips. I remember learning somewhere that the lips were very sensitive and erogenous.
CH
Morgan,
My husband rarely tongue kisses but when he does it is such a wonderful thing. He is not the romantic type and shows affection only when he deeply feels it so when he does kiss me more intimately it makes me feel fantastic. When something is not done in a routine fashion it makes it that much more special.
Your guy may or may not be inexperienced as has been suggessted. Let him know how you like to be kissed and see what happens.
The one thing I've learned about kissing is that there is NO such thing as a normal way of doing it anyway. Yes, that even includes lack of tongue by what I've read before from sex experts as well.
As someone already mentioned, just caresses or even sucking on the partners lips is part of the kissing course with some couples, which may not include any tongue at all.
In fact...I read that many women out there prefer the affectionate tongueless kisses anyway, so now I sit and wonder if he does this based upon what he read, LOL! Makes me wonder, but there are many different reports from so many different experts and boards and you name it.
Main thing I've learned is to him, as oppose to 'tell' him, what it is that you like or prefer by simply doing that TO him yourself. What better way for him to figure out that you enjoy more passion in your kisses as well as the affectionate types he may be using.
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