Lactating, am I pregnant?
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Lactating, am I pregnant?
| Sat, 04-09-2005 - 12:16am |
My boyfriend and i were having sex about 2 weeks ago or so. He started feeling my breasts and out of nowhere he came out and said 'youre lactating, you might be pregnant'. i didnt believe him so he squeezed my right breast and i did start to lactate. Does that mean that i might be pregnant? I also have a few symtoms of pregnancy: missed period 2 weeks now, feeling nausious, nipples are sensitive, urinating frequently, and feel more tired... I did take a pregnancy test at this clinic where i live on Monday, it came back negative. So they told me to come back in a week b/c the HCG hormone might not be in my system yet or may not be high enough to tell. please give me some info on what you guys things.. Thanks!

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What gets me is that she said that they want a baby because her b/f already has a son and he doesn't see the boy often...And then she had a miscarriage..I'm not knocking the girl, but I think that a little bit more thought should be put into it before trying...I'm not saying that they haven't thought it through, but it might help. Some people can't handle the strain, whether married or not. I'm not saying she shouldn't have a baby, but I am saying that she and her b/f should both make sure that having a child is what they want and they are in a place in their lives where having a baby fits into their lives and won't be an "inconvience." Having a baby means maturing and growing up. Going to the bar turns into going to the store for diapers. Aww, heck, who am I anyway? Just another voice among many...*L* :)
Her one post she did say they have been talking about having a baby for a while now.
Thanks for standing up for me, since i wasnt here to do it myself :). I agree with everything that you have said. It seems like some people like to be a little more judgemental than others. I agree with you 200% when you said no one is really prepared for parenthood. Parenthood comes along when the child is born. You learn along with the child, as to which cry means what(diaper change, hungry, tired etc...) You learn all those things along with a newborn child. You can have 2 kids and expecting one more but you still will be learning with that 3rd child, and you could still be nervous about giving birth and all of that with the third as well. As far as marriage goes, like you said Tish, marriage doesnt make the relationship any stronger or weaker than a g/f + b/f relationship.. It all has to do with trust, honestly etc... I know a lot of people that have been in a relationship for years and it seems like its so much stronger than a marriage.. Different people have different views on different situations, thats what makes life so interesting. Thanks Tish!!!
As far as my b/f's problems and his ex thats them two. Has nothing to do with me and him. She messed up in the relationship b/c he caught her sleeping with another guy in their bed. Thats when he lost all his trust for her and things went down from there and the new b/f told him that he wont be able to see his son for as long as he lives. Thats why they're not on good terms. As for me being in my b/f's life, i have helped him a lot with him seeing his son. One day my b/f was talking about his son all day, wondering how he is, if he has clean clothes on, if he ate, etc... I told him to give his baby mama mother(grandmother of his son) a call and ask to see him. He was so scared to call but i helped him out with it. He called and he got to see his son for the weekend and it was my first time seeing his son. I got so attached to him i felt that he was ours. All 3 of us sleeping in the same bed, felt like we were a little family. Basically what i am trying to say is that if you dont really know the whole situation, dont try to put people down and making decisions for me or wondering for me if we're in a good place to have a baby or this and that... Thats what my b/f and i should be doing and have been doing. Like I said before, we have talked about it for a while now!
Just wanted to clear that up!
Who the heck is ever ready for parenthood? *L* Doesn't matter how many books you read, children aren't generic and parents aren't perfect...
Some of us were merely suggesting, since you are trying to have a planned pregnancy, that thoroughly thinking it through and deciding whether you are in a place in your lives together where a baby would fit in with your plans. You are in school, no? How much longer do you have to go? Can you stop and have a baby and continue with school once your baby was in a position for childcare? There's a lot more to having children than you could ever imagine, and I'm just discovering it all for myself. *LOL* Mine was an accident. My husband and I didn't plan on the baby this early, but we're happy. But, we still have to decide who stays home, who goes to work? Who does this, that, when, where, how, and what...Childcare is another issue..Daycare vs. babysitter?...Then there are all sorts of decisions to sort out..I'm not saying that you aren't in a position to have a baby right now, but I do rSUGGEST sorting out the situation with the b/f's ex BEFORE a pregnancy/baby comes along..Wouldn't it be sweet if his son got to actually know his little brother or sister on a regular basis? :) The less stress the better..*S*
JMHO
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