Ladies, do you believe the hype?

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Registered: 01-18-2007
Ladies, do you believe the hype?
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Thu, 01-18-2007 - 9:48pm

I have recently seen articles talking about the popularity of women strapping on dildos and "doing" men. For example, Wendy Maltz M.S.W., an internationally recognized author and sex therapist, has an educational site to promote healthy sexuality where she list women's top ten fantasies, where she has at #2 "Strap me on, I'm going in" and says that, "By far, one of the most popular fantasies women have is being the man for one night... literally. They would like to act and dress up like a man, and I mean straight down to the penis. That's right, I'm referring to a strap-on penis." And noted best selling author Nancy Friday writes in "Women on Top" that, in contrast to the earlier generation, "these new women go a step further. They throw symbols aside and make no apologies for imaging themselves with the real thing. Throughtout this book women have been strapping on dildos, both in fact and fantasy". Nancy Friday even discusses women's fantasies of "raping"" and even "gangbanging" men.

What do you think of these writings? Do you think this is fact or fantasy? Appreciate comments from real women, not authors trying to sell books.

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Registered: 07-26-2004
Fri, 01-26-2007 - 11:00pm
I think that's more of a fantasy for some men, than it is for women.
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Registered: 12-19-2006
Sat, 01-27-2007 - 8:14am
I would be interested in seeing the entire list of these fantasies. (I checked her website out, but couldn't find the list.) I know that some women and men fantasize about the strap on scenario, but I certainly wouldn't think it is the #2 fantasy for women. Most of the reading that I have done, the man is the one having that fantasy. While I would love to be a man for a day, I never fantasize about it or strap-ons. I find that I do fantasize and re-fantasize about the things that are not present in my relationship and those fantasies do border on the taboo list when my sex life is very active. If we are having a dry spell, I can fantasize about the slightest touch and be content. In trying to make some sense of the strap-on being #2 for most women, perhaps it is because those people fantasizing about that do so often. My bet is the poll was limited. I've never been to a sex therapist, and I don't personally know anyone else that has either, so who is this person polling? I would think the people who are visiting a sex therapist are those having difficulties (whether lack of interest in sex or addicted to sex), and that those are the people being polled. I wouldn't think the average person with a healthy sex life is checking in with the therapist.


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