Ladies- Do your friends know his size???

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Ladies- Do your friends know his size???
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Thu, 09-21-2006 - 6:21pm

Hi Everyone.. Ok before you start replying that this is just another post about penis size... well ok it is but in a different way.. we all know many (if not most) of us guys are size focused much to the confusion or amusement of you ladies.

But we also know that when the girls get together, more info and juicy detail gets discussed than you might otherwise lead on. Other boards here would confirm that one!

So my question is.. When talking with your girlfriends, Do you ladies talk or tell each other about your man's size, whether positively or negatively. Or in more of a general way, have you talked about the notable ones in your past you miss or ones that you just encountered?

Then the follow-up question is that have you ever increased the size more than it really was for the fun of the story?

Basically.. I want an inside view into how much the girl talk really involves size discussion (even if you would make the claim that Size doesn't matter to you!!)

This is open to all you ladies, younger or older, married or single. It doesn't have to be a recent discussion.. just any type of this discussion in your experience.

Look forward to reading the responses.

Curiousniceguy.

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Registered: 11-26-2004
Sun, 09-24-2006 - 10:15am
I have been with my husband for 27 years (ever since I was 19 1/2) and none of my friends (best friends included) know the size of my husband's penis. Women may comment, joke, or whatever about penis size, but they are usually mature enough to not disclose the men in live's penis size. If they do, it's usually more about "men they have been with" not men they are presently with. If any detail is discussed about penis size or sex at all, it generally a serious issue--not just for general information. But yes, a group of women together, may jokingly ask a woman who is dating a black man "So, Mary, tell me...is the myth true? You do seem to be "walking funny" lately!" ;-)
Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )
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Registered: 09-24-2006
Sun, 09-24-2006 - 10:17am

I don't discuss size with anyone either... I did post something about size and hardness on here, but only because I wouldn't discuss it with someone in person. I think that is disrespectful.

I will tell you, from my experience, size truly does not matter! It is the technique and the passion and what he can do with his tongue :)

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Tue, 09-26-2006 - 2:30am

I have never and would never share that type of information with friends or family. And neither would my DH about me.

Once again, I think men overestimate the importance of size for women. The only time it MIGHT come up in casual conversation, in regard to a past lover, etc., for some women, would be if it were extraordinarily small or large.

I don't want to know my best friend's husband's size though...nor does she mine!

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Registered: 09-21-2006
Tue, 09-26-2006 - 11:57am
Ok here is a little diversity to your responses. It seems to me that the previous posters are a few years older than me. I myself am 22. In my experience, women do talk about penis size and details about their sex lives. Two of my friends are married and a few of them aren't. We don't sit around all the time talking about this, but it does come up. I have been in and out of several relationships and my girlfriends always ask about things like that, especially the ones that have only seen one or two penises. From my experience I can tell you that the size of the penis isn't a deciding factor in the amount of pleasure given. I think the subject of penis size is just a fun topic to talk about, just between the girls. We never make fun of anyone at all, but when the topic of a new sexual partner arises, details are given. I did have one friend who, when asked about her fiancee's size, said he was huge. Me and another one of my friends have hooked up with this guy and know for a fact that she is lying. This is not relavent but you asked if girls lie about this, and this is just one instance. I can't speak for anyone else except for me and my group of friends.
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Tue, 09-26-2006 - 12:11pm

Yes, typically, personal discretion is learned through mistakes and maturity.

Question for you....how would you feel if you knew that a BF, past or present, was discussing your private parts with his friends?

Discussing sex, as a general subject IS fun and fine, for the most part, as we do on this board. But casually giving away personal and PRIVATE details of a partner's anatomy, for the amusement of your friends, isn't, IMO.

I think this is why the phrase "Too Much Information" was created.

Generally speaking, the more important the relationship and person is, or was to you, the more respect and discretion you use in this type of situation.

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Tue, 09-26-2006 - 12:15pm
Well they all know it's a Mouth Full! LOL
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Registered: 09-21-2006
Tue, 09-26-2006 - 12:40pm
I agree with your opinion but I think that people are becoming more open about their sexuality. This only gets talked about between a circle of friends, and no one really has any interest in taking it any further.
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Registered: 12-20-2004
Tue, 09-26-2006 - 3:18pm
But isn`t huge subjective?..If all her lovers were ,say, around 5" and on the thin side, then the new guy is 7" and thick, she might "think" that is huge....lol
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Registered: 09-21-2006
Tue, 09-26-2006 - 3:47pm
Yeah thats a good point. Just found it hard to believe.
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Tue, 09-26-2006 - 5:35pm

My friends and I are very open about sex in general but very discreet when it comes to personal relationships. And being open doesn't mean that you must be indiscreet to discuss sex as a topic.

My friends and I have had conversations that would curl my mother's toes, if she had overheard them. But, we are also aware that breaking a trust can happen very innocently and spontaneously, in the course of a "harmless, fun" conversation.

We all have to set some personal boundaries when it comes to disclosing details of our personal relationships if we truly value and love our partner. If we don't, then it's a little hard to consider a person & relationship special and intimate, if everyone and their dog knows all the gory details.

After all, intimacy means that you share deeply personal and private experiences, feelings and thoughts. But if you're sharing those things with others, in a casual way, then it's not quite so intimate anymore, is it?

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