Ladies- Do your friends know his size???

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Ladies- Do your friends know his size???
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Thu, 09-21-2006 - 6:21pm

Hi Everyone.. Ok before you start replying that this is just another post about penis size... well ok it is but in a different way.. we all know many (if not most) of us guys are size focused much to the confusion or amusement of you ladies.

But we also know that when the girls get together, more info and juicy detail gets discussed than you might otherwise lead on. Other boards here would confirm that one!

So my question is.. When talking with your girlfriends, Do you ladies talk or tell each other about your man's size, whether positively or negatively. Or in more of a general way, have you talked about the notable ones in your past you miss or ones that you just encountered?

Then the follow-up question is that have you ever increased the size more than it really was for the fun of the story?

Basically.. I want an inside view into how much the girl talk really involves size discussion (even if you would make the claim that Size doesn't matter to you!!)

This is open to all you ladies, younger or older, married or single. It doesn't have to be a recent discussion.. just any type of this discussion in your experience.

Look forward to reading the responses.

Curiousniceguy.

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Tue, 09-26-2006 - 6:43pm

From the male perspective, and likely the same one that prompted me to start this topic, I would be considerably aroused knowing that my wife was talking about my size with her friends..

Regardless of my own size or abilities, I would feel secure that my partner, with whom I share love and trust, would not belittle me even if there were reason to do. So I would never be concerned about her sharing details if that were the subject of the day and if her friends were equally as forthcoming and interested.

I think that most men wouldn't consider this subject or type of talk a violation of trust. First because we talk like this with our friends. Also, since, as others have said here, women do not consider the size or even the organ itself as what is truly of value in a relationship, this discussion does not open up the true important aspects of the intimacy and therefore would not be violating anything.

Generally I think this subject is of interest to most men, particularly with regard to what women really truly think and what they say when we aren't around. And with my wife, the fact that she would be involved in any discussion sharing or boasting about mine, or even inquiring about the subject, indicates this is on her mind and this enthusiasm can only be good for me!!

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Wed, 09-27-2006 - 6:07pm

Maybe men are interested in how women discuss them because they want to believe it's always in a complimentary or boasting fashion. It isn't. Many women are NOT happy and are not sexually satisfied with their partner, so I can't believe that men would really want to hear the negatives.

My DH and I do not need the confirmation of our friends to be happy with one another. I can be proud of my relationship & partner without divulging personal and intimate details of my sex life. Why would I want to anyway?

We can and often DO have raucous conversations about sex though, just without ever giving any personal information away. Just can't imagine why one would need to.

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Wed, 09-27-2006 - 8:12pm

men care because women care

besides it makes no difference if a owmen is talking about her past partners or her current....she is still taking about it

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Thu, 09-28-2006 - 5:36pm
Past experience has shown me that younger women will generally tell a guy whatever they think he wants to hear in regards to this subject. It may or may not reflect how they actually feel about it, but if they cast their present boyfriend in a good light, it is indicative of how they feel about him in general.
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Fri, 09-29-2006 - 1:09pm

It depends on who I'm talking to and how open they are on their end, and my level of trust with the other person. My sister is probably the one I'm most open with, mainly because she talks like a guy about sex and it makes me open up more too. I can't really recall a time where I've actually said anything about an exact measurement, mainly because I've never measured one and can only take the guy's word (I think all guys have measured themselves), but I will comment on the "fit" because THAT is what it's all about!

I will brag- like my SO is the only guy who consistently gets me off missionary style. Or that he's larger than average. My sister does the same, some of my friends do as well. It DOES come up...now that I think of it I can't recall any of my friends or even my sister saying an exact measurement, but we do talk about mind blowing experiences. I love sex, and it's a huge part of someone's intimatel life, so it's natural it will come up as long as you're sexually confident and comfortable with yourself and you're talking to people you know and trust (not in public to anyone, I heard a coworker do that and it was just creepy).

I did have a friend who commented that her ex was lousy in the sack and another friend say that their ex had a small penis...but they were exes at that point. When they were together they never said anything really negative. I even find myself making comments like that about exes. If you care about someone though there is a level of respect you will maintain.

~Kristi

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Fri, 09-29-2006 - 2:18pm
Funny, my wife and I just had this discussion the other day..She said some of the women in her office do stand around at break or lunch and it does come up. Mostly the single women do the asking and telling..some have got specific about length, but mostly it is in generalities...He`s really thick, he`s skinny, long, short etc...SOOOooo I asked her what she said when asked about me, and she said ,"I smiled and said he`s longer than average and thicker than average". bless her soul..lol
As close as she and her sister are, I don`t doubt her sister knows even more..lol


Edited 9/29/2006 2:19 pm ET by humpdaddy
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Fri, 09-29-2006 - 8:45pm
it doesn't make anyone any better if you are talking about a guys penis if he is a current boyfriend or a past you are still talking about it negetivily or not. So i really don't get how think it's better to talk about if the person is not with the guy.
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Sun, 10-01-2006 - 12:22am

I'll put in my 2 cents on this discussion...


I agree with dr blar here.

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Mon, 10-02-2006 - 2:12pm

I don't do a watercooler discussion about anyone I've been in a relationship with, I only talk about it to a close number of friends. The question was about honesty and whether or not girls discuss size and performance, and I answered truthfully. Yea, it's not always positive. The difference of talking about an ex vs. the person in a current relationship is that if in a current relationship things aren't all rocking the boat in the bedroom you'd want ADVICE to make it better, so that's a different approach than you would talk about an ex. It's over at that point. Just like saying your current girlfriend is great, but your ex had some HUGE cans.

It's not a matter of right or wrong really, just the comfort level and trust with whoever you're talking to that it won't get spread around.

~Kristi

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Mon, 10-02-2006 - 3:29pm

Isn't it relative? What if you have a small mouth? tee hee

In any event, maybe you meant "more" than a mouthful. ;-)

Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )

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