Ladies- Do your friends know his size???

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Ladies- Do your friends know his size???
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Thu, 09-21-2006 - 6:21pm

Hi Everyone.. Ok before you start replying that this is just another post about penis size... well ok it is but in a different way.. we all know many (if not most) of us guys are size focused much to the confusion or amusement of you ladies.

But we also know that when the girls get together, more info and juicy detail gets discussed than you might otherwise lead on. Other boards here would confirm that one!

So my question is.. When talking with your girlfriends, Do you ladies talk or tell each other about your man's size, whether positively or negatively. Or in more of a general way, have you talked about the notable ones in your past you miss or ones that you just encountered?

Then the follow-up question is that have you ever increased the size more than it really was for the fun of the story?

Basically.. I want an inside view into how much the girl talk really involves size discussion (even if you would make the claim that Size doesn't matter to you!!)

This is open to all you ladies, younger or older, married or single. It doesn't have to be a recent discussion.. just any type of this discussion in your experience.

Look forward to reading the responses.

Curiousniceguy.

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Sun, 10-08-2006 - 4:25pm

that is what i am talking about the troll posts even some of the threads are just trolling. and i never meant all but the context of discussing this subject with friends usually isn’t in "good" nature per say. It's a fact that when a girl says her partner/ex-partner is small it usually not in good context apposed to when she says he is large.

so you would not tell her off if she said that about an ex?

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Sun, 10-08-2006 - 7:20pm

I had one girlfriend that said when she was in college if you had a boyfriend that was packing you didn't dare tell your girlfriends about it because they might try to get some of it when you were not around. She had attended a private religious college and there was a major shortage of heterosexual men. Sounded like it might have been enough of a shortage to cause some young men to find religion.

She said at that school the straight guys in the drama department got no sleep. You didn't dare talk about your guy. The ratio was like 5 to 1 female to male and worse if you limited yourself to hetrosexual males.

I have overheard women/girls talk in high school when they were all learning about this.

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Mon, 10-09-2006 - 12:17am
My friends and I discuss sex very openly so I don't think the generality you're making about younger people holds true. We just don't give specifics about our partners.
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Mon, 10-09-2006 - 9:47am

If I knew he was a louse (a cheater, a beater, etc.), no....but if it was just simply to degrade or mock a him (or any man), yes. I usually defend people who get "put down" don't you? Whether it's for height, weight, breast size, what kind of car they drive, where they work, etc..

... and you? What would you do if a man in your crowd was putting down an ex for having sagging or too small breasts or a loose vagina...what about a stranger? Never heard a man talk down about another woman's anatomy (past or present)? I'd be curious to how you'd handle it?

Another question...I know it's commonplace to hear men critique women's breasts (even those of passerbys ); if you agree with this, do you then think it's OK for women to also check out men's packages and critique them or do you think they are two different animals? If you think it is perfectly acceptable for men to to look, discuss, and judge womens' breast size, do you also think it's perfectly acceptable for women to look at, discuss and judge men's penis size? It's not unusual for men to even comment to other men in their circle about so and so's girlfriend's jugs or the woman who is sitting over there's jugs...or jugs in general... ;-) I am just curious as to why we see that as perfectly "natural" for men to do and yet doing the same thing with respect to penis size would be "degrading" and "mocking" someone? Do you see them as equally offensive?

If a man says something to his friends about his girlfriend's small breasts, do you think he is automatically mocking her and/or trying to degrade her? What if he says "I love everything about my girlfriend, but I wish she didn't have small breasts or saggy breasts." Do you see that as being as equally offensive as a woman saying "I love everything about my boyfriend but I wish he didn't have a small penis or a crooked penis."?

This is somewhat relative, so I'll ask it... In general, do you think it is OK for men to discuss and critique their breast size/shape/firmness/nipple height/color preference? And if so, do you think it's equally OK for women do the same with respect to penis size? I find, that for some reason, the overall consensus of one seems to be perfectly "natural", and the other to be "entitled, selfish, picky, high maintenance....whatever" ;-) Do you find the same to be true with respect to both body parts and both sexes?




Edited 10/9/2006 10:00 am ET by rain_dancer_iam
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Mon, 10-09-2006 - 4:10pm
i basically answered your questions in a previous post in this very thread
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Mon, 10-09-2006 - 4:48pm
I remember back in graduate school my roommate's bf had a reputation _from the other guys_ in the locker room of being scary big. It just became a constant joke. I once saw him peeing in the yard when he didn't realize anyone was looking, and it looked giant in his hand. It might have just been one of those that didn't really shrink when it wasn't erect. The thing is, my roommate weighed about 80 pounds wet and we were all like, "how????!!!??" Never talked about such things since!
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Mon, 10-09-2006 - 9:21pm

Now this is a great response to my initial question.. playful, honest and non-combative about what interest in this subject and associated conversations say about the treatment of men and women in conversation with the "girls"/"boys".

The fact that you were curious enough because of what you heard is the basis of why this subject COULD be fun.

As I said earlier, I am disappointed that this turned into the debate about privacy and intimacy when all that I was looking to explore was the natural curiousity about the opposite sex particularly with regard to the most basic fundamental physical difference.

So thank you Iphillippa for bringing a little playfulness into here.

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Tue, 10-10-2006 - 6:14pm
If you had phrased the question differently, made it less specific, you might have gotten different answers.
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Wed, 10-11-2006 - 1:30pm
I've never talked about his size. I have had friends tell me VERY occasionally but it's usually about exes. I had a friend who dated a basketball player and she was having a bit of difficulty because, well, his size matched his height!! lol!! I don't think most women do unless there's a serious problem and the two of you are super super close and even then it's probably rare.
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Wed, 10-11-2006 - 1:34pm
a lot of guys DO talk about female body parts. I've heard my guy friends talk about breast size.. even the size of her vagina!

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