Ladies, help ??

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Registered: 09-18-2004
Ladies, help ??
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Sat, 09-18-2004 - 5:02pm


My fiance and I have been together for 4 years. Our sexlife was great when we were younger. We used to have sex almost everyday and some days more than once. Since then a slow downward shift in the last 2 years, we have gone to maybe on the weekends. It's lights out after 9:30 no chance for love-making. It drives me crazy because I am still in the emotional mindset that we should have sex everyday. I try to talk to her about it and it doesn't help. She says she thinks this new birth control she is taking might be affecting her, "YASMIN" it is one of the newest. I guess my question is has anyone had the same effect with YASMIN or is it a relationship problem. And if so what are your thoughts.

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Registered: 08-11-2004
In reply to: wobbles66
Mon, 09-20-2004 - 5:03pm
You poor thing. I guess that answers your questions though. I do know that in my first long-term relationship, which ended when I was 21 after 3 1/2 years, sex was the first thing to go. I stopped enjoying sex with him and would think of every excuse in the book to not have it until I came to the decision that I wanted out.

I am living by myself for the first time ever (I'm now 27), and you're right. It's very quiet. But you'll get used to it and start to enjoy it, I promise. Give yourself time to heal from your relationship -- it can take weeks, months, and sometimes years to get over a serious relationship. I love having my own place now - I get to eat whatever I want, watch whatever I want, listen to whatever music I want, and leave my dirty clothes in the bathroom if I'm feeling lazy without anyone to get irritated at me about it. It's not always fun, but it beats living with someone that doesn't appreciate me.

I'm sorry about your loss, but you are young and lucky to be free from someone who wasn't satisfying you (in more ways than just sex, I'm sure).

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Registered: 09-18-2004
In reply to: wobbles66
Mon, 09-20-2004 - 5:32pm



Thanks that gives me a little piece of mind. To be honest I haven't thought of a lot of the things you mentioned.

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Registered: 01-04-2004
In reply to: wobbles66
Tue, 09-21-2004 - 2:56pm
I'm taking Yasmin and yes, it has slowed down my libido.

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