Ladies: how important is penetration?
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Ladies: how important is penetration?
| Wed, 02-08-2006 - 7:31am |
A recent post about how thoughts of penetration are important to someone's arousal got me thinking. Ladies, is actual penetration really important to you? If your partner could help you have multiple orgasms without penetration, would that be adequately satisfying to you, or do you need to feel him inside you at some point to have the best lovemaking?
Shere Hite's "The Hite Report" called this strong desire to be penetrated "vaginal ache". How about it, ladies? Is it important to you?

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Yes, it's very important to me.
Yes, I agree, penetration is very important. It's just not satisfying if all I get is oral or manual stimulation. If I had to choose between ten minutes of oral sex that brought me to orgasm or one minute of intercourse that wasn't enough to get me there, I'd choose the intercourse hands down. And also in my case I hate penetration by anything other than a penis. I don't like fingers or toys. The feel is too hard and/or too cold, I never use any toys at all.
And sometimes I even crave ORAL penetration in the same type of way. I can come very close to orgasm from GIVING oral.
Of course, it's important to me but it's not THE most important physical need I have when aroused. I crave the skin on skin contact of sex.
Penetration is the closest that I can physically get to my DH, having him inside my body, so it's very important to both of us.
And while I enjoy penetration very much, we often have oral only nights which are every bit as intimate and pleasurable as intercourse for both of us. And I don't typically experience multiple orgasms from penetration alone anyway.
However, the most intense emotional experiences with my DH have been during intercourse.
Edited 2/8/2006 4:50 pm ET by katmandoo2001
If it's a clitoral orgasm, I can come multiple times and still crave more. With just one internal orgasm, I feel completely satisfied.
Kat....I mis-read his post. He asks a two-part question. One, "Is penetration important to you?" and two, "Do you NEED to be penetrated?" I didn't realize that he said "need" to be penetrated as in "have to have it every single time." I answered the question as to why I would prefer penetration over oral/manual if I only had "one" choice between them, rather than do I ALWAYS have to be penetrated. I would have to still say that if I had a choice between oral/manual and penetration, I would still take penetration because I feel it would satisfy my physical needs the most; but if I had to say that I had to penetrated each and every time, my answer would be, no. As I said in my response: "I OFTEN...crave penetration..." that certainly doesn't mean always(it depends on the height of arousal). On a level of intimacy....I also agree with you, that oral and manual are equally as intimate as intercourse and I certainly do enjoy sessions that don't include intercourse at all. Thought, I'd clear that up for Mancreature, as well.
I didn't realize how much I had missed penetration until recently when I resumed a sex life two years after having left my ex. Having a man inside makes me feel whole and complete, and while a dildo is pleasant and necessary, nothing compares to being held and made love to all at the same time. I have not had a lot of sexual partners in my life, but it does seem that the male is programmed to want to be inside his lover, and this female is totally programmed to want it!
Kate
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