Ladies: how important is penetration?
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Ladies: how important is penetration?
| Wed, 02-08-2006 - 7:31am |
A recent post about how thoughts of penetration are important to someone's arousal got me thinking. Ladies, is actual penetration really important to you? If your partner could help you have multiple orgasms without penetration, would that be adequately satisfying to you, or do you need to feel him inside you at some point to have the best lovemaking?
Shere Hite's "The Hite Report" called this strong desire to be penetrated "vaginal ache". How about it, ladies? Is it important to you?

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I know that sometimes, my orgasms are less intense with penetration. Since the vaginal walls cannot fully contract with that space filled. It felt similar when I was pregnant. My uterus was full so I didn't experience full contractions of that organ during orgasm either.
I don't think what you/she has described is unusual. Many women have made the same comments on this board in the past.
Was married for over 17 years, and can recall 1-2 orgasms in all those years, so orgasms have never been that important to me. Didn't know what I was missing until current man. Inbetween men, I was celibate and my thoughts on penetration hasn't changed regardless of how great or bad my sex life is. So when I think of penetration, orgasms are not a part of that thought process because....
There is this physical craving I call "wanting to be stuffed to the gords" ('gords' meaning anything you want). This craving can come during any/all sexual activity, at which time I'll say "pound me" and I'm in heaven; then again it maynot come all. It can also come when you're sitting at the office and trust me the ache goes on for hours. It can come when you're having coffee with girlfriends and despite the great company/conversation 'being stuffed' is the only thought going on in your head. For me, if the craving comes when alone a dildo only helps the orgasm not the penetration craving. Afterwards, I'm satisfied yet still "craving".
Let me claify that this 'craving' is not a mental thought at all. Visualizing and thinking about penetration, pounding, oral and fingers, does not make my body "crave" - it just puts pictures & thoughts in my head and my body/mind may become 'filled with desire' but not "craving". The 'craving' I describe is purely a physical one. It comes on without any mental thought, provocation, or stimulation. It doesn't involve "making love" or kissing. This is a physical need to 'be stuffed', and if not fulfilled, it can go on for days!
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