Ladies, I'm a confused male.
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Ladies, I'm a confused male.
| Mon, 05-03-2004 - 8:11am |
Time and again on this board, women say that their major sex organ is their brain or heart, or they need emotion to enjoy sex, they wouldn't go out with a male escort because there's no emotion or connection, etc. Numerous other posts are about sex toys and masturbation and the pleasure they bring, which doesn't exactly suggest a relationship. This looks to me like two differnt responses to sexual pleasure which tend to contradict each other. Why would a real live penis attached to a real live man, even if not emotional, leave you without pleasure, while a plastic one can get you to an orgasm?
A confused male (insert joke here) wants to know.

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hope this helps explain why escort/stranger sex is not something i am interested in.
honey
For me, I do need the emotional bond to have sex with a person.
Edited 5/3/2004 10:17 am ET ET by katmandoo2001
Leticia
There is one thing about climaxing and there is another about having fulfilling sexual relations with the guy that you love...
yea... women like to cum, just like guys do. But I DON'T HAVE TO climax for it to be fulfilling if I am with my bf. There is a bond between us that cannot be matched by anything, one night stands, sex without feelings, toys... none of it compares to having sex with him because I love him. climaxing is good, sex with my bf is great, climaxing whiel having sex with him is amazing... it is all good, just at different levels.
So, you ask, why do women "not enjoy sex" when there's no connection there?
I wouldn't say that... but I think from my past experiences I've enjoyed sex MORE and gotten MUCH MUCH more out of it when I do feel connected to someone. But it isn't purely just about the emotions - it is about trying new things, being whoever you are and trusting your partner. The comfort makes it so much better.
With regards again to the toys vs a man - again that's just masturbation and it involves just us. :-) So no problems with connections on that one.
Great question though.
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