Ladies: Preference question.

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Ladies: Preference question.
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Thu, 03-08-2007 - 10:48pm

Ladies, which do you prefer to give to your partner, a BJ or a handjob...and why?

Greg

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Registered: 12-19-2006
Sun, 03-11-2007 - 9:14am
My DH loves to get a BJ, but he prefers to get off during IC. Many people incorporate oral sex as a form of foreplay without the intent to "finish" during that act. Your SO is probably enjoying what you are doing just fine, it's just not his "final act".


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Sun, 03-11-2007 - 9:17am
good question rice! I agree that giving my DH a handjob can be very erotic and provides both of us with a different experience.


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Sun, 03-11-2007 - 9:28am

I prefer to give my DH a BJ because I can get lost in it. I can combine the use of my mouth and hands, build my own rythm and fantasize .... provided I am not trying to watch his reaction. I do sometimes enjoy watching for his reaction at the same time, but I find that sometimes breaks my concentration on the act itself.

I know many here have given no credit to handjobs. Personally, I find them very erotic. During a HJ, I can actually see his penis and enjoy all of the visuals that provides, plus I can watch him at the same time. I don't loose my pace while watching him when doing a HJ. Often, I incorporate my breasts into the handjob, sometimes a lick, but mostly, it's just fun to try different strokes and see how he reacts. Sometimes, I also incorporate a strand of beads or a vibrator, and that's fun too.



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Sun, 03-11-2007 - 1:03pm
Rice--at the risk of sounding 'juvenile' lol...what is cunnilingus??
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Sun, 03-11-2007 - 1:49pm

Cunnilingus


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Sun, 03-11-2007 - 4:37pm

I don't get these "preference" questions....what exactly is the point?

Maybe it's just me....but how can anything be a "preference" when it's all good? "Sometimes you feel like a nut and sometimes you don't" ....and sometimes you feel like both.... ;-) I couldn't tell you which one I prefer, because I love them all. Actually, my husband likes a combo (if I'm giving him a handjob, I often put my lips around the head while I'm pumping). I honestly couldn't tell you which one I prefer, because both of them get me equally excited and rarely does one not involve the other (at least to some extent).

For me, every aspect of sex is "equally" exciting because no two sessions are created equal. Arousal is a funny thing.....it's like a box of chocolates, right? You never know what you're going to get. Well....you just never know what's going to "set" you off that day. I am extremely visional (oh yes....despite the fact that I'm a female....***rolls eyes****). Just being "up close and personal" with a penis...gets my engine going. Most of my fantasies involve lots of penis action (several men, in fact) (manual and/or oral, both as a full participant and/or a voyeur).....sooooooooo......

as usual....I have no "preference".... ;-)




Edited 3/11/2007 6:28 pm ET by rain_dancer_iam
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Sun, 03-11-2007 - 5:29pm
blowjobs! there's more.. "me" to them. i feel like handjobs are much more impersonal and repetitive. i love trying new things :)
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Registered: 12-12-2006
Mon, 03-12-2007 - 1:05pm

Did you ever ask your DH what HE'D like? There are very few women that wouldn't agree that intercourse is more mutual, but at the same time, oral, whether fellatio or cunnilingus, is more intimate, and usually makes for great foreplay. If you feel foreplay is a waste of time and energy, and all you want is intercourse, how boring! Getting there is half the fun. The journey should be just as exciting as the destination.

PS: I'll bet your husband doesn't do it for you, either. :(!

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Mon, 03-12-2007 - 1:30pm

More intimate would be a relative to the individual (s) which would not feel intimate to me (tried and done that w/ DH before-not my cup of tea). As a matter of foreplay OS has it's place in mine and DH's sexual relationship but that's the extent of it. I didn't say that foreplay was a waste of time, just BJ's and HJ's that are done for the sole purpose of the finish is what I don't like, find selfish, childish ( I said juvenile to sound less harsh ) and one sided.

As for my DH, he's quite happy and gratefull that I do use my mouth to tease ( but not fully please ), and YES he certainly does reciprocate and would also do it during menses if I'd allow it. I work 3 jobs ( 1 F/T, 2 P/T ) and have a widowed and handicapped mother whose house I help to maintain (along with my own) so time is extremely precious, we choose to spend it the way that it works for us.

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Mon, 03-12-2007 - 2:47pm
I would be too!