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Ladies: Preference question.
| Thu, 03-08-2007 - 10:48pm |
Ladies, which do you prefer to give to your partner, a BJ or a handjob...and why?
Greg
| Thu, 03-08-2007 - 10:48pm |
Ladies, which do you prefer to give to your partner, a BJ or a handjob...and why?
Greg
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Thanks, Rain, it's almost like you read my mind. I had actually composed a post very similar to yours, but deleted it because I was afraid of stirring things up. Much better for a woman to point out the inconsistency. The reason I posted the question was that so many of the woman had a negative attitude about manually stimulating a man. I mean, if the women HERE don't care for it, what hope is there for men who are with women with even less interest in sex? LOL
As far as it being a double standard, I don't think that I ever had sex without providing some manual stimulation before, during, and sometimes after (i.e. gave her a 'hand job'). Actually, I don't think that there are many men who, when in a passionate embrace with a woman, can resist the temptation to let his hand roam down to between her legs. It's usually an urge that has to be resisted, not encouraged, LOL. I know that women have different attitudes toward sex than men, but it would be an understatement to say that it's discouraging that most women don't seem to have the same urge. I think I can count on the fingers of one hand (pardon the expression) the number of times I had a woman 'taken me in hand', if you know what I mean. I know that you're supposed to ask for what you want, but the thought of asking a woman to touch my penis felt so, so, juvenile. It didn't help that the first time I put a woman's hand on my erect penis, through my jeans no less, she pulled her hand away and said that she thought she was going to throw up. I guess it goes without saying that I didn't do that again for a long, long time.
Anyway, thanks again for the understanding, and for listening to another of my rants.
Edited 3/14/2007 4:11 am ET by humpdaddy
Anytime, Rice...
...however.....there are just as many men who do not have the "urge" to touch women as there are women....and I, as a woman, have always had the urge and freely acted on it.
In the least, there may be an explanation why women do it....but as for why men wouldn't...well.... ;-)
You see, Rice....when you are having sex with young men there really isn't much time. The goal is to detain orgasm, not induce it.... ;-) Many of them are goal oriented (they prefer intercourse) and they have little qualms about showing it. Soooooo.....many women are under the "belief" that manual is the last thing that a man needs or desires. Back in your time (and mine), there wasn't much to go on. Many assumptions were made with respect to how each of our bodies worked based on our actions. Thank goodness for the internet, huh?
Anyhow....like you, I was always the one who "primed" the man manually....and yep, they were always orgasming on me within two or three minutes (if not by manual or oral) after proceeding to intercourse. I did without (and I'm not alone) because for many men, when it's over, it's over. At least most men will orgasm either way (during intercourse).....so yeah, Rice....stop the ranting already.... you sound like a woman who complains that she can't gain weight... ;-) (I'm just playing with ya.)
Edited 3/14/2007 6:30 am ET by rain_dancer_iam
Lets just say that every relationship has it's own currancy with checks and balances. I have my own ways of being giving and selfless with my DH, just don't involve BJ's and HJ's. I'll leave my explanation at that.
Edited 3/14/2007 1:32 pm ET by danidi
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