Ladies: Preference question.

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Ladies: Preference question.
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Thu, 03-08-2007 - 10:48pm

Ladies, which do you prefer to give to your partner, a BJ or a handjob...and why?

Greg

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Registered: 02-26-2001
Wed, 03-14-2007 - 11:02pm

I have to say that I don't understand the reference to trying to gain weight. All I know is that there were times when I wanted to be touched so much that I thought I was going to scream, but I didn't. Much better since I gave up.

Although I'm sure there are straight men who don't have an overwhelming urge to reach the 'promised land', I can't believe that there are anywhere near as many of them as there are women who have no interest in petting the one-eyed trouser snake. If there are indeed women who actually want, and enjoy, doing that, I never met any of them.

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Registered: 11-26-2004
Thu, 03-15-2007 - 6:14am

The reference to gaining weight was not with respect to being fondled, but to at least eventual release, period. Even if you didn't get "man handled" you still most likely orgasmed during intercourse (and as I said, most young men are intercourse-driven).

I know exactly what you mean by wanting to scream because I was not only not receiving any manual stimulation, but with only a few minutes of oral sex and two to five minutes of intercourse, orgasm was almost impossible for me. I can't say that I didn't think that this was suppose to be the "norm," because if you looked at porn, that's exactly what you saw on the big screen....so who was I to "question" what sex was suppose to be like? ;-) I was under the assumption that I was suppose to be screaming with ecstasy over a quick lick and stick! tee hee I thought I was somehow broken. But here I was giving plenty of manual and oral stimulation (as a solo event as well) to the men in my life and I wasn't even receiving enough stimulation to my true sexual organ. That's what I meant by my comment to you....stop complaining.....because as bad as you think you had it, I can guarantee you that there were slews of women who had it worse.

...... ;-)

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Registered: 03-15-2007
Thu, 03-15-2007 - 10:29am

Both ... lol

Let's say HJ is fun when you want to really warm your partner up but I find it quite dull. I prefer to go for a BJ & HJ at the same time for maximum pleasure for him. I have hands, i rather use them ! :D

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Registered: 02-26-2001
Thu, 03-15-2007 - 8:21pm

Your comment about being disappointed by how short intercourse was surprised me, as I was led to believe that a woman's primary interest during sex was getting it over with as quickly as possible so that she could go to sleep or go shopping or watch Oprah or do whatever it was that she would have rather been doing in the first place, LOL.

The comment about porn giving you the impression that sex wasn't supposed to last long was also suprising. In most of the porn I've seen the guys seem to go on and on for what seems like forever. In addition to the obvious reasons, it was intimidating to see how long those guys could last (until I found out about looping and spliced takes). They went on so long sometimes that the women looked bored. Of course, this being porn, maybe they were just faking being bored so that it would look more realistic. ;-)

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Registered: 11-26-2004
Fri, 03-16-2007 - 6:13am

"....as I was led to believe that a woman's primary interest during sex was getting it over with as quickly as possible...."

...ah so that possibly explains why men come so quickly....they're being merciful. ;-)

tee hee....I have always enjoyed your sense of humor....

...nope....I came (no pun intended) away with the same feeling. Afterall, exactly how much foreplay did she receive? Add that to the fact that the clitoris was non-existent in porn of the old days. Chances are she was getting nothing out of it....but let's get real, that wasn't the focus of porn...obvously. Oh....wait....yes....I forgot....she was suppose to be screaming with ectasy even after not receiving any foreplay (only providing it, likely to several men), and sans any accompanying clitorial stimulation.... Yes....she was likely "bored." You were viewing "reality" (with the exception of the length of time the guys lasted--although they lasted only about 4 or 5 minutes, which is average.) Watching porn wherein the woman is bored stiff (stiff...ha ha) and is clearly getting nothing out of it could seem like an eternity.......Oh...but again.....as a man....she should be screaming and writhing just from.....well....you get the picture.... ;-)




Edited 3/16/2007 6:26 am ET by rain_dancer_iam
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Registered: 03-16-2007
Fri, 03-16-2007 - 8:41pm
i prefer to give bj simply because he likes it more :) plus, there is something sexy about doing it for him...

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