ladies, question concerning intercourse

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ladies, question concerning intercourse
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Mon, 05-29-2006 - 4:21am

Hello, I'm a man on this posting, but I was wondering if the ladies here would share their feelings on a particular preference.

During lovemaking, do you feel that having intercourse without a condom provides a much deeper feeling of intimacy and soul connection than using a condom?

I hope to hear your feelings on this topic. Thank you.

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Mon, 05-29-2006 - 8:31am

That is a definite yes for me.


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Mon, 05-29-2006 - 9:05am
Yes, I have to agree. I always hated condoms, there is always that fear that they will break or slip off, and that kinda gets in the way of enjoying the moment, and it can get in the way of being spontaneous as well.
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Registered: 08-11-2004
Mon, 05-29-2006 - 9:27am

I get irritation from condoms so I definitely prefer not using them but only if it's a long term partner and there are no worries about STDs. There is a feeling that I don't want plastic between me and my husband.

However, that's only assuming that there aren't any concerns about pregnancy either. If I was using a method that wasn't so reliable, then constant worrying about pregnancy would definitely cause less of a feeling of intimacy. And also as a man, if you're concerned about an accidental pregnancy, then a condom is the only method under your control to help be sure it doesn't happen. Any method can fail, and if a pregnancy happens, you have no rights afterwards about what will happen.

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Registered: 04-21-2006
Mon, 05-29-2006 - 11:43am


Personally, I much prefer to make love without a condom. To me it feels better and it is more intimate.

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Registered: 07-02-2005
Mon, 05-29-2006 - 3:20pm

I have always thought that it's more intimate without a condom. My DH and I have only used condoms briefly. We used them when we first started dating and a few times between me switching birth control. I just think it feels different with a condom and I like to feel him. I like to have him ejaculate inside me.

After I have my baby in Dec, we will probably have to go the condom route for a while. I can't take bc anymore because every kind I have tried has made me sick or raised my blood pressure. But, we will have to use them eventhough we don't want to because I don't want to get pregnant again after I have this baby, at least not anytime soon.

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Mon, 05-29-2006 - 4:10pm

Yes and No. Yes because we don't have to stop in the middle of foreplay to put a condom on and since I'm on the Pill instead, I don't worry as much about pregnancy so my mind can be completely focused on the sex.

But no because I have never felt a physical difference between using a condom and not using one so if I was blindfolded, I wouldn't know the difference so it didn't bother me in the sense of there being a barrier there because I couldn't feel it. If I can't feel it I can just pretend it's not there.

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Mon, 05-29-2006 - 4:29pm

i love condoms in large part because they have allowed me to sow my wild oats without getting an std or pregnant.

however, this question is like asking whether kissing without seran wrap wrapped around your head provides a much deeper feeling of intimacy and soul connection? sure, skin on skin feels more intimate because there's nothing between the two of you.

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Registered: 05-21-2005
Mon, 05-29-2006 - 9:42pm
Yes I think the idea of it helps for a more emotional experience and feeling of connection. If your not looking for that though, then I don't think a condom makes much of a difference.

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Tue, 05-30-2006 - 10:01am
The skin against skin is the ultimate. The act does not seem complete unless I feel him ejaculate all of himself inside me.
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Tue, 05-30-2006 - 11:03am

Actually, no. Makes no difference. It's not what's happening below the belt that provides the intimacy anyway. For us, after all these years, we get the same sense of intimacy holding hands at a special moment.

Wearing a condom or not, it feels essentially the same to me. But knowing that my DH gets MORE physical pleasure without one is what's important.

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