LADIES - where do you personally PREF...

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LADIES - where do you personally PREF...
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Mon, 01-30-2006 - 7:23am

LADIES - where do you personally PREFER your man to ejaculate?



  • on my face
  • in my mouth and swallow
  • in my mouth and spit
  • on my breasts
  • on my tummy
  • on my butt / back
  • anywhere below the neck
  • in my vagina (condom)
  • in my vagina (no condom)
  • I would honestly prefer he NOT ejaculate anywhere on or in me


You will be able to change your vote.


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Registered: 07-18-2003
Tue, 01-31-2006 - 4:01pm

In a homogenized, pasteurized, and politically correct world, I'm still amazed by women's complaints of the mess produced by male ejaculate. There's too much, dribbles back out of me, wets my panties, etc. Is ejaculate not a consequence of penetrative sex with men?

Guys also use their members to empty their kidneys, but I don't think that's the source of the bodily fluid "mess" many women don't like to deal with. Ejaculate is about the cheapest thing there is, available on any street or bar and readily given away. My "mess" is hanging and swinging under my man, and it is for me and no other woman. In exchange I honor my man that his "mess" is above all others and what he ejects is the most valuable (as he is). I love being female and holding inside that part of him nobody else can. I just don't understand how treating ejaculate as toxic waste or another body fluid honors each?

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Registered: 06-11-2003
Tue, 01-31-2006 - 6:16pm
Who said anything about toxic waste? It is a matter of personal preference, thats all. When it is all said & done, does it really matter where the semen ends up? As long as both partners are satisfied, who cares? We are all different, and what works for one woman does not necessarily work for the next.
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Tue, 01-31-2006 - 6:24pm

Okay, that's funny. This is a prime example of "taking the ball and running with it." LOL!

Exaggerating my comments into your own silly conclusions isn't an effective argument for your point of view though.

But, guess what, my DH washes up after sex! Is he dishonoring ME by doing so? Your logic would say that he is.

Sorry, but I think you've taken a simple difference of opinions to a ridiculous extent. Totally unnecessary and pointless.




Edited 2/1/2006 1:00 am ET by katmandoo2001
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Tue, 01-31-2006 - 6:25pm
The soapbox is out, Sea...watch out for more lectures on what being a woman is all about! LOL! I guess walking around with dripping panties is honoring your partner. Now that's a new one.


Edited 1/31/2006 6:40 pm ET by katmandoo2001
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Tue, 01-31-2006 - 6:48pm
tee hee My husband and I laugh at how "messy" sex is. Did you read my response to this thread? It doesn't get any messier than when your man is aiming for your stomach or breasts and shoots it so far, it hits your face instead, or your hair, or even your eye. I don't mind any drippage, but having him ejaculate inside of me doesn't define my femaleness, just as having my juices all over him, doesn't define his masculinity. His ejaculate is going to end up somewhere, and where it ends up, depends on his and my mood at the time. He isn't so fixated on always finishing in the vagina.....because we like variety. As I said in my other post, I find it the MOST erotic to SEE the actual ejaculate....because I can even project and feel each spasm with him, and that throws me over the edge into my own orgasm...now...to me....that's being female. ;-)
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Registered: 12-24-2005
Wed, 02-01-2006 - 2:37am

OK, this might be a little graphic, but it's to make a point...

My experiences and perceptions about this have changed over the years, along with my various relationships.

I remember having a female roommate some years ago, and her BF would come over the apartment every week or so. When they'd be done making love in her bedroom, she would immediately--like clockwork--be off to the shower. I remember saying to my other roommate at the time "she's going to wash 'it' off," and feeling somewhat insulted by that. Like, 'what do we have, cooties?' Lol.

Then I had a GF who said eeeeewwwww once when I accidentally came on her tummy on the way to 'going down' (talk about your premies!).

Then a couple GFs with whom I had condomless sex, who either had mixed feelings, or just didn't say anything one way or the other.

More recently, I came on my then-GF's back (won't get into the details) and apologized, to which she responded, "please don't apologize...I like it." I felt like I'd finally been blessed.

But the point is, I enjoyed all these relationships for what they were, and definitely believe 'to each their own!'

E :)




Edited 2/1/2006 2:43 am ET by mr_e_steubing
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Mon, 02-13-2006 - 2:02pm

My reason for seeing semen or any of it as messy is because of how it was .... not sure how to put into words. It does help to hear from women how they feel about semen etc. The thing is what do you do with semen after you receive it and what does it do for you when you have it in you? And if you have no children how do you feel about having semen in you? etc.

This site is helping me.

JS

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Registered: 01-05-2006
Sun, 03-05-2006 - 1:29am

help me here on this one

dont know how to put into words and clearing up confusion..

and this is helping...

Do you like accepting his semen if so why even though it drips out.. what meaning does it have for you to accept it when children do not result and what helps you to receive it when you want intercourse vaginally wiht him sticking his penis in you but knowing that semen is what (is coming as a result of having intercourse with him) his if (i see this right is what man's orgasm is-am i right-?) orgasm is inside of a woman? How do you feel about; or what do you feel when you receive; and can you?

Even though a man and woman "use" one another to help each other out to be able to have intercourse vaginally -what is the man doing to her while this is happening so she does not feel used in this situation?

What is the purpose other than children of having semen in a woman who wants to have intercourse vaginally -you said that it serves a purpose -what is other than children?

Since i am reading your response: i am taking complain to mean that you wish that there was no drippage so how do you emotionally handle the drippage other than wishing it wasn't drippage... Do you wish it went inside and served a purpose even though it doesn't result in children? Am I making sense?

sjudma: JS

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Registered: 12-20-2004
Sun, 03-05-2006 - 1:56pm
Most women let the man ejaculate inside of her because when he orgasms, there is no change in the stimulation for him ...So to answer your question, they let him do that because it is MORE pleasurable for him... A woman does want her man to be pleasured doesnt she? He in turn should make sure his woman gets her pleasure the way she wants/ likes it also. Some women can orgasm while having intercourse with her man, either from direct contact with his penis, or from him/her stimulating her clit with a hand, finger, etc. No woman should feel her man is "using" her for his pleasure alone. It should be mutual pleasure.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 03-05-2006 - 2:01pm

Obviously, every act of intercourse isn't for the purpose of producing children. I enjoy making love with my DH because of the pleasure and the emotional intimacy we both receive from it.

And it would be nice if the drippage all came out at once but it doesn't. It's just a minor annoyance though, nothing more. I would never not allow my DH to ejaculate inside me because of that either.