Ladies, Why one night stands?
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Ladies, Why one night stands?
| Fri, 07-16-2004 - 9:09am |
What is in it for women when they have a one night stand? Do you do it for the fun and the thrill of new sex? Are you trying to bury emotions of a past bad break up? Does it ever leave you feeling empowered, or does it sometimes leave you a little blue? In college , do you remember the "walk of shame?"

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Edited 7/18/2004 10:23 pm ET ET by tally33
I'm curious only, okay?, but I'm wondering if you, and any others who feel the same as you indicated, would still feel just as accepted if you discovered that (and this is all hypothetical of course) the one-night-stand partner was very active with many others anyway. Would that still turn you away from that particular, person/opportunity, or would the 'skin' desire still be pretty strong??
Forgive me please for being so curious, but I've heard similar responses from our younger generation that we use to mentor and I'm wondering what point of view I might have been missing.
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Why did I do that? like a dumb girl i REALLY kind of thought i stumbled into a 'something' with that guy and we DID go out a couple more times after that...but it wasn't the 'something' i thought it was...it had a LOT to do with feeling wanted....and, like GTB said...because i COULD. I was sexually safe about it- no IC or oral.
I did also have a totally traditional one night stand once...it was fun at the time (and we were safe), and in that case it was totally about lonliness, he was SUPER hot- was into me and I was up for it. I just wanted someone to share my bed with- knowing it was just going to be that one night! And that one night was after a year of no sex and ultimately I felt pretty gross about it later...frankly I'm better than that...I waited 2 years before really getting involved with anyone after that...I realized that doing that was pointing to other things I had to work on about myself first...
OH- and WALK OF SHAME??? that's SOOO not an out of date term...I'm in my 20's (albeit late 20's), but that concept was alive and well on my college campus and i'm VERY pleased to say I never had to do it...altho nothing gave me more pleasure than watching it go on!!
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