Ladies....I'm curious...

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Registered: 12-27-2005
Ladies....I'm curious...
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Tue, 02-07-2006 - 6:39am

Just curious if this is strange/different...

The other night I was talking with my wife and we played a little game...I would name a "turn-on" and she would rate it 1 to 10...1 being not much of a turn-on and 10 being like..."oh yeah!". Anywho, turns-out there isn't much between 6 and 10...and 10 is "seeing penetration". Basically...if she saw a women giving a man oral...or a man giving a woman oral that would be nice to her...but it wouldn't be enough to really get her going. Nothing really gets her totally there except for seeing or envisioning penetration. Doesn't have to be a penis necessarily...it could be a dildo. When I give her oral she has to close her eyes and think of a penis (mine) going in and out of her...otherwise it would be difficult for her to orgasm...and she can orgasm no problem. So...basically...she's got this penetration fetish...I guess that is what you'd call it. Everytime she wants to come...she absolutely feels like she needs to think about penetration.

Do other women feel the same way...or is mine different? If you do feel the same way...is there anything you do (porn-wise...or whatever) to satisfy the need to see/feel penetration?

Thoughts?
readytosexplode!

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Registered: 05-28-2005
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 7:54am
No, not me....I am more turned on by watching oral...actually.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 9:39am

No, all women don't feel the same way. Your wife is unique, as each woman is. Each of us has our own built in mental and visual "triggers" for arousal and orgasm which is unique to our own sexual development.

Sounds like your wife's first glimpse of penetration came at a crucial time in her sexual development.

But like the first respondant, oral stimulation seems more visually erotic to me.

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Registered: 08-04-2003
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 10:12am

I get turned on by even thinking about my boyfriend's penis going in me...hahah..Even if I don't orgasm, I just love the way it feels in me. I also get turned on by oral. I get turned on by a lot of things..I think i might be a nympho HAHAHAHA.

But seriously... no, I do NOT think AT ALL that your wife is strange because of that. I believe it is a natural feeling..biological even. The penis was MEANT to go in the vagina. That's why we crave it!

suga

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 10:29am

There's nothing strange or unusual about your wife.


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Registered: 07-18-2003
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 10:58am
Your DW seems normal to me. Visualizing an erection (large) is near top of the list. Seeing it ejaculate lots with force is very near the top. But both happening inside me is the absolute ultimate. Oral, fingers, and toys are nice, but isn't the real purpose of our minds and those organs to contract around and spurt inside?
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Registered: 01-07-2005
Tue, 02-07-2006 - 10:52pm

<<>> I'm curious - did she tell that's what she's thinking about when her eyes are closed?

The only reason I close my eyes is so I can enjoy the moment/sensation better/longer. I am totally unable to fantasize during any intimate act - the sensations overwhelm me.

<<>> IMO nothing totally satifiies the need for penetration like penetration. Dildos are okay, but the pressure/sensation just isn't the same. The desire/need for penetration can happen anytime: sitting at your desk @ work; driving the car; going down on him; kissing him; feeling him touch you.

However, penetration to some women means nothing; then there's the rest of us....