Lap Dances

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Registered: 06-30-2005
Lap Dances
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Thu, 07-07-2005 - 5:43pm
I am so nervous about giving my man a lap dance. I am very self concious and I don't know what to do. Any advice on how to cure that and any tips on how to start out on a lap dance or anything would be much appreciated!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: niki376
Thu, 07-07-2005 - 5:48pm

What is a lap dance? It's simulated sex. That's all. So, whatever you would do in this position sexually, is what you would do during a lap dance. Your rub yourself on his lap, while touching your breasts, etc.

The only way to get comfortable doing anything for the first time, is to do it and continue doing it until it feels more natural to you.

But IF this isn't enjoyable for YOU, then don't do it.

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Registered: 06-01-2005
In reply to: niki376
Thu, 07-07-2005 - 6:45pm
I agree. I would say that you have to be comfortable with yourself before you will be able to relax. Most likely you won't be doing the lap dance long before it leads to real sex.

 

 

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Registered: 02-26-2001
In reply to: niki376
Thu, 07-07-2005 - 10:00pm
I'm sorry, Kat, I understand what you're trying to tell her, but when you said "whatever you would do in this position sexually, is what you would do during a lap dance" I had this image of a woman taking off her clothes and then laying down on the bed with her legs spread and waiting for the guy to tell her when he was finished. Since that's my experience in such matters, it was the first thing that popped into my head. I doubt a professional would get much in the way of tips if she did that in a strip club, although I'm guessing a lot of guys would recognize what she was doing, LOL.
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Registered: 05-05-2005
In reply to: niki376
Thu, 07-07-2005 - 10:12pm

i would start off the mood bet setting your man in a chair add some romantic lighting and some sexy music to dance too and tease him until he can't stand it anymore you could also spice it up by not allowing him to touch you . as for an outfit F*ck me boots and a thong always work but do what you feel comfy with and enjoy

cheers Nicole

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: niki376
Fri, 07-08-2005 - 1:24am

Funny Rice. No, sad really that THAT was your first thought. You've obviously had some unresponsive partners!

But I would have to disagree with you. If a woman was willing to lie on a stage, with her legs open for men to examine at will. She'd make money!




Edited 7/8/2005 1:31 am ET ET by katmandoo2001